If you know that your spouse said one thing and a few months later when he/she is confronted about saying such and such a thing, he/she cpmpletely denies it, and you know that he/she is lying but wont admit to what he/she said before, how would you feel? what would you do in such a situation?
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depends on the lie..and how serious it is
but i would feel the trust he put in me has been broken...
Re: lying
it would really depend on the situation.
but whatever the case, first i would ask him why he wasn't comfortable with me enough to tell me the truth. If he's lying to me there's more going on under the surface that needs to be dealt with.
Re: lying
i'd hold that forever as emotional blackmail against him and use it as a weapon whenever i wanna get my way.
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^^ 
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but whatever the case, first i would ask him why he wasn't comfortable with me enough to tell me the truth. If he's lying to me there's more going on under the surface that needs to be dealt with.
If you let me play more video games, the lying would stop altogether. :p
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Even the truth is held forever as emotional blackmail. Trust me, you'll get your way no matter what. :p
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would make me think...what else is has he/she said that he/she does not stand by?
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If he lied about one thing i am sure he has lied about others as well.. Depends on how big the lie is and how many people it has hurt.
Usually guys hid their affaris. Which defianately a huge turn off. I prefer people to come forward and confront it instead of hiding it away from me.
When you hide something you know its never a good thing:)
I would prefer him to come forward and speak with me directly face to face. But lets say if he is cheating on me. I can assure you that will be the last time he will ever c heat on someone. I will leave such wonderful marks on his brain for lifetime.
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when you reveal everything, it's also never good either ..sometimes not even among the spouses :)
if someone lied to you, dont think that that person was a liar ... think in terms of ' why did he/she lied to you? were you trustable enough to keep the secret'?
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oh my gosh Matt joined the forum too after SolarOceans ;-) hehe Welcome Matt!!
Re: lying
Depends on the situation. But agree with Solar, if it is something serious then I would be concerned that something is going on which would require me to scrutinize his attitude toward me.