after they get married, in stead of going to spend their day at some far away hotel, they could enter their own home, and their families wish them well on their first day spent together.
thoughts?
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OWN HOME- as in their parents home or as in home they have bought for themselves?
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^ i think dushwari means the bride and grooms own home, not the parents.
i think the hotel is a better idea because i think the thought behind it is that the bride and groom dont yet get into the routine of a married life and for a couple of days they can just relax and enjoy instead of having to clean the place the next day after they wake up like making their bed, etc. and plus u dont have to go to a far away hotel, u can go to one thats nearby. but thats just me, after my wedding, i was staying with my husband in hotels for over 2 weeks till we finally came to our own place. i think it was pretty nice, not having to deal with any chores right after the wedding.
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yeah u don't want to spend ur first night together with ur mother/mother in law sleeping in the next room. eeesh.
yeah u don't want to spend ur first night together with ur mother/mother in law sleeping in the next room. eeesh.
why not , atleast they can wake ya up for fajar prayers :@:
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^Speaking of fajr, I wonder how many married couples wake up the day after their wedding for the morning prayer?
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^ they don't sleep. :D
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^hahaha
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MMMMMMMMM.... NASTY...... i like the idea presentd bt how it ll happen in pak ;(
men r so boring here...
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I think its a GREAT idea, and would do it myself if we didn't have so many people staying at my in-laws place during the wedding.
I hate the idea of spending my first night with my husband in some random hotel room that countless people have stayed in before me. Its not as special, and is kind of a turn off!
Alas, it seems like we will have no other choice.
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c'mon hotels are enjoyable... and i think its better to stay in the hotel for the first night, rather than in a bedroom next to ur MIL/SIL/BIL...
^Speaking of fajr, I wonder how many married couples wake up the day after their wedding for the morning prayer?
Interesting...
vanii, what do u mean by men are so boring in Pak...? I guess men are men, here or there...
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why would anyone wanna stay at home? even if its just the husband and wife? i mean staying in a hotel room is like a mini-vacation, ur stress free and anyway u will be living in the new home for a long time afterwards, what’s the rush?
and i really wanna know from those people that live with their in laws, why would u EVER wanna go to that house ur first night and be surrounded by ur in laws in rooms next to urs?!? :shudder:
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I want to go to my home.
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My cousin after he got married came straight home, and yes we did invade his privacy by spending the whole night in their room haha and they both thanked us the next day!! it was so much fun!! they said they felt too awkward being left on their own since 1. it was an arranged marriage, and they'd only met like...3-4 times before the wedding, and 2. the next morning over coffee everyone would be like 'soooo? How'd it go?' haha they said it broke the ice a bit having us all there, and they had the time of their life when they went on their honeymoon since they were more comfortable with each other.
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after they get married, in stead of going to spend their day at some far away hotel, they could enter their own home, and their families wish them well on their first day spent together.
thoughts?
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To each their own! Some people would like it that way, so they can do it and its good for them! Some people would like to be in a hotel, so they can do that and its good for them! Personally, I think is hotel better, and then you can go visit your family, but whatever floats your boat!
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thanks, folks.
i truly appreciate all the replies.
it is true that the NORM is or has been to go away to a hotel, but who knows being blessed in starting the married life, from the get go, from the couple's new place, be it an partment or a bought home, remains a delightful idea.
for the privacy issue, the best thing to remember, and that is another opinion of mine only, is that perhaps being newly married is so overpowering, that having ones family members around, can go either way - good or bad based on how understanding they are, in realizing that the newly wed deserve their privacy.
however, if the focus is on being out of sight and away from home, joint family home or individual unit, then perhaps going away suits people.
to each, their own.
after they get married, in stead of going to spend their day at some far away hotel, they could enter their own home, and their families wish them well on their first day spent together.
thoughts?
this has happened and been happening all over the world. Only few can afford a honeymoon suite, 98 % take the dulhan to their home
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I went to my husband's apartment. All relatives stayed at other relatives homes or their own. It was great I think because I was very comfortable knowing this was now my home.