At traffic signals, see many sellers of ‘motiye ke gajray’. I never bought them thinking ‘jis ko dene hote hain, wo nahin hai’.
Once I shared this thought with a friend and I was told that ‘iss main kiya hai, behnon ke liye bhi le sakte hain’.
I was reading a novelette ‘Tilla JogiyaN’ last week and there a boy (teenager) who buys gajra and bring that to her mother. He says ‘Amma, aap ke liye sucha motiya laaya hoon’, but to his surprise Amma gets angry and says ‘ye such motia nahin, lucha motiya hai. Maa ke liye kon gajre laata hai’.
So, whats with that prevailing thought of gifting some particular items to specific people?
How come a simple ‘sucha motiya’ become ‘lucha motiya’ if its given to someone other than mehbooba / bivi?
I also read in ‘Kai Aasman the sir e aasman’, where this lady ‘Wazir Khanum’ was thinking what gift she should give to her lover ‘Nawa-sahib’. She thought of perfume (some itr) and some clothes. But then she negates herself by saying ‘ye zara zaati qism ke tuhfe hain - These are personal stuff and our relationship is at initial stages’.
Fragrance is not a gift for a stranger. It is not a gift for a boss, the postman, your baby-sitter, the person who feeds your cat on weekends away. Partly, this is because a fragrance gift from a person not intimately known raises suspicions that the giver is either flirting or insinuating the giftee needs some freshening up. Another powerful reason is that to buy someone fragrance, you need to know two complicated things well: the someone and the fragrance.
'ajeeb o Ghareeb zehniyat ke 'ajeeb o Ghareeb Khayaalaat. yeh dunyaa hai yaa koii 'ajaa.ib Khaana? har mo’aamilaat meN shakk o shubahaat ko faroGh. kabhii ma’soomiyat ko bhii awwaliyat kaa darja denaa hamaarii zehniyat kiuN nahiiN ban saktii?
toHfa toHfa hii hotaa hai chaahe motiyoN kaa haar ho yaa gajraa.
aap ne kabhi kisi ajnabi khatoo ko 'Rose' pesh kiya?
maiN koii baawlaa huN jo $2 kaa gulaab kisii 'ajnabi' par zaa'e karuuNgaa? :D
vaise, maiN ne to kabhii nahiiN diyaa magar apne qareebii rishtedaaroN ko zaroor diyaa hai. misaal ke taur par India meN perfume bahot mahnge bhii haiN aur aasaanii se genuine imported perfume dastyaab bhii nahiiN is liye apni bahnoN, bhaabhi aur cousins ko diyaa hai. :)
maiN koii baawlaa huN jo $2 kaa gulaab kisii 'ajnabi' par zaa'e karuuNgaa? :D
vaise, maiN ne to kabhii nahiiN diyaa magar apne qareebii rishtedaaroN ko zaroor diyaa hai. misaal ke taur par India meN perfume bahot mahnge bhii haiN aur aasaanii se genuine imported perfume dastyaab bhii nahiiN is liye apni bahnoN, bhaabhi aur cousins ko diyaa hai. :)
okay what gifts you have given to comparatively strangers (new acquaintance)?
PS: If you got a Gulab for free, will you give it to a stranger lady.. so your lady boss?
okay what gifts you have given to comparatively strangers (new acquaintance)?
PS: If you got a Gulab for free, will you give it to a stranger lady.. so your lady boss?
yes, i've given abunch of roses to my boss. she loved it! :) depends on the occasion, you know! :)
my gifts to new acquaintances are occasion appropriate. :)
In a 'blissful' state of mind, I once bought gajras for four friends(male), made them wear it the whole time we were out. Later on one of my friends brought in the gajra selling guy and we convinced all waiters to wear one each.....and they did....
yaaraa gajra sirf 'auteN pahentii haiN jo vo baaloN ke oopar lagaatii haiN jab k mard Hazraat jo koThoN pe jaayaa karte the/haiN vo kalaaii par ek floral bracelet pahente the jise vo dauraan e mujra aaNkheN chaRhaa kar Khumaar aalood andaaz meN soonghaa karte the. us bracelet ko dastband kahte haiN.
I just came to know that I have never gifted perform to nay one I remember once someone told me about a perfume but when I visited a mall and asked the price that was almost equal to my one month salary. So I gifted a gold ring
kabhii ma’soomiyat ko bhii awwaliyat kaa darja denaa hamaarii zehniyat kiuN nahiiN ban saktii? 
I remember once someone told me about a perfume but when I visited a mall and asked the price that was almost equal to my one month salary. So I gifted a gold ring 
