low self esteem in your partner..

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how will u deal with self esteem and confidence issues in ur partner…??
wud it sulk u and make u feel bad abt him/her??
or wud u help him/her out…wen u knw he is a strong person inside and its the only thing holding him back..

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Re: low self esteem in your partner..

Help out, encourage, praise, appreciate ..... no question about it.

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listen to them when they need you. When they are done talking.. tell them..

lets do life.... lets go lets go....

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Re: low self esteem in your partner..

If they're depressive, it would be a drag. Otherwise, if they have the occasional blues, of course, full support.

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Re: low self esteem in your partner..

Marriage is for better or worse, your spouse is your family.... you have to treat them right. Would you think your parents are a drag or burden on you if they had such issues, or your siblings or even your kids? Would you not support them. No you wouldn't, you would help them out as much as you can.... same should apply for your spouse.

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@Mia…wat if before actually getting married u knw they have those issues..but they are great person inside..wat wud u do then??

JK lets go…lets go.. :mehr:

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Re: low self esteem in your partner..

:D

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Re: low self esteem in your partner..

What if the self esteem/confidence issues was weight related?? How do you praise or appreicate it...when you both know that the person is fat? If your support comes in the form of a gym membership wouldn't that just make your hubby even more depressed! Or is it the thought that counts?

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I can tell you what I did with my hubby to get him physically in shape. One day I sat down with him and told him how I was concerned about his health and his lifestyle. I told him I was being very serious and I wanted him to do something because I felt he wasn't taking me serious. he listened to my concerns and told me he'll do something about it but I need to help and push him throughout.
So he has started slowly doing a little bit of exercise and he watches what he eats.. so I am glad that he is taking some action. I think there is a right way to do and communicate everything if done respectfully.

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i wud feel very bad about it…a weak person can with low self-esteem,i pray my partner is not like that:bummer:

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Re: low self esteem in your partner..

I'd help him with his problems.

I've had a low self esteem while growing up and during my marriage. My ex-inlaws and ex-husband lowered my self esteem even more during my married years. One day I realised I was capable of so much more and that most things my family had said weren't true, I found that out when I noticed how much more I could really do and how positive many people outside our famliy felt about me.

So I know how it feels which would help me to understand him even better. I'd tell him how I used to have a low self esteem. That would make it easier for him I think to talk about his problems and try to get a better self esteem.

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Re: low self esteem in your partner..

My husband has a very low self esteem....I think the reason is his mom...
She always used to be have everything in her control....that's very good..but give your childeren the chance to make mistakes....and if they make mistakes give them chance to think about it so that they'll know how to change a mistake into a succes...

I don't how to deal with it....coz he really about me....and I get angry easily whenever he says or do something that's wrong.....

Pls give me some tips....I love him...but he is a person who doens't know what he wants...coz his mother always decided what he should do...
When he lived (about 10 years) away from his family....his mother still had control over him....under pressure...he never did what he wanted.....except our marriage...