Loving Behavior....................

[Bobby1]

Re: Loving Behavior…

@redvelvet

Err… I never said that love shouldn’t be regularly expressed. When did I ever approve of harsh behavior…and that too on a regular basis?

I personally would get annoyed with daily, twice-a-day hugs…whether it’s from a spouse or even a parent. It’s too much for me. But if it works for you and your family, then great. You often talk about how you treat your wife and your kids and what you’re doing for them and what you want for them…and you seem like a very devoted husband with a good, stable family MashaAllah se and may it always remain this way…but understand that every individual, every family, every home is different in how they do things.

The important thing is that we try our best to do right by our loved ones, to show them love and patience, etc. And the best reward for our efforts is not the approval or applause from outsiders in the real or virtual world…that doesn’t matter and nor should one strive for that. The best reward or payback is Allah’s approval/raza and that our efforts result in the strengthening of those family bonds and that they bring out the good in our loved ones.

Humans are not that different, behavioral science will tell you that. We all love sincere compliments and we all hate negativity and criticism. Kids raised in homes with negativity, criticism and abuse will become damaged goods and will have a hard time adjusting in life. I was just dealing with a Pakistani family and the mother seemed so miserable and I really felt sorry for her and her daughters.