so my brother is getting married to our cousin. he really likes her and our parents are very happy. now we are having lots of wedding functions and parties and he wants to invite his american friends. but since such a marriage is taboo he’s not sure what to do. he hasn’t told them that she is his cousin. anyone been through something similar or know someone who has?
yeah my friends have... they usually just tell them they are good family friends.. its the easiest way :) my bro is engaged to a cousin too, lekin i think he's told all his friends its a cousin... plus if they're good friend and are privledged (cant spell) enuff to be invited to the wedding, they shouldnt kick up such a big fuss...
to be honest...good friends who are open minded won't freak....my parents are cousins and i've been surprised with people's respoonse to it. some are great, others wierded out...
anyhoo..just say close family friend OR distantly related...:)
thanks. that's what he's been doing, saying "old family friends." just afraid that someone at the parties will say something like 'oh yah, his mom is her dad's sister!'
thanks for the advice
I know people who've grown up in the US never being around desis and always having been more concerned about what the rest of the world thinks than anything else, but in this matter they don't give two hoots. I don't think anyone should feel the need to hide it or label it something else in fear of being labeled strange. I mean honestly, if it's okayed by religion and if you know it's not too close a relation for you to need to be concerned about medical complications and what not, why must you be so concerned with what everyone else has to say about it? I don't think it's anyone's business to judge anyway.