One of my closest friend’s relationship has just been broken a few days ago. They were together for 15 months.
The reason: her mum didn’t accept it and said she won’t be her daughter anymore if she keeps on seeing him.
My friend is heartbroken. He’s still in denial and just keeps on repeating that it’s so unfair. I just don’t know what to say to him, he’s obviously really depressed and has always been there for me when I was going through tough times. I want to help him but I don’t know how. I keep telling him time is his best friend and then he replies with “it’s also my worst enemy”.
I know it’s not a nice thing to say but I feel like it’s emotionally draining for me aswell. I’m in a ‘happy period’ of my life right now. I want him to be happy with me and joke around, do silly things like we always do.
How can I be there for him and at the same time don’t get sucked into his depression?
Well keep being yourhappy self when you're with him...no matter how depressed you are a ral friend won't spoil another pals fun...have his depressing talks with him but after that go out and do something fun together... will be good for him too
All you can do right now is hear him and accept his pain. When people are like that they don't need consolation, they are so deep in pain that they can't think of the future. Just say for eg., "I'm so sorry and I wish I could do something to make it OK, but since I can't remember I'm here for you when you need me." Hopefully he will start thinking of reasons why he's better off now in a while....
i also know someone who was going out with this guy for almost 4 years....long distance relationship...
he wanted to get married asap n she needed more time coz her parents wanted him to get well established
he asked her to run away n come to him but she said no coz her parents were more important to her....
n he left her...n now she is almost suicidal...always lost in her own world....n shes nto even into the stuff seh was into before....
i wish someone could help her out....
wat if i say u dont know tht person…
thanks though…
tht person needs help…n i’m not even kidding..
her parents dont know the step seh took for them n they just keep on saying the same thing…n they keep on saying bad stuff abt him…u know like taanay…
khair…thanks
wat if i say u dont know tht person...
thanks though...
tht person needs help....n i'm not even kidding..
her parents dont know the step seh took for them n they just keep on saying the same thing...n they keep on saying bad stuff abt him...u know like taanay...
khair...thanks
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No, I dont know her but from what you wrote in last thread please correct me if I am mistaken, I can conclude and many others will agree with me, that she did the right thing.
meri jaan……aik insaan pe zindagi khatam nahi ki jaati…
apni zingagi apni zindagi hai …usse barh ker koee cheez nahi…log bichharte hein…chaahein alag ho jaayein…inteqaal ho jaye kuch bhi ho jaye…lekin zindagi khatam nahi hoti…humein aage barhna hota hai…
is tarah to dunya keh saare log kam az kam aik na aik insaan se to apne se zyada pyaar kerte hein na…agar sub unke jaane pe jaan dene lagein…to dunya do din mein khali ho jaye…
apne kaam apne shoq kisi aik insaan ki wajeh se nahi chore jaate…especially jab woh aapko chor ker KHUD gaya ho…
naa hi or sub se milna chora jaata hai…
haan har kisi ka thora asar hota hai humaari zindagi mein…magar insaani zindagi ke saare faisla lene ka huq sirf Allah miyan ko hai …aap khud khatam nahi ker sakte kuch …
^Tell me about it man!
It's sooo bloody frustrating! It's always the parents who start blackmailing. My friend also feels very let down by the girl, she literally 'dumped' him. I guess I understand her side aswell, she's the only child and her parents invested everything they have in her and have great expectations.
I'm just worried about my friend, he hasn't given up on her yet.
…aik insaan pe zindagi khatam nahi ki jaati…
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