Re: loveless marriage
Well this one is interesting… 
If there were no kids involved then if she does not love me and I love her for whatever reason then I must try my best I wont push unless forced to do so… becuase that is my nature I can be generous and cruel but towards a spouse I am ussually more generous… if I cant stand her then I would surely give her the boot but again it would be unlikely that I would marry her to begin with.
Now when children are involved then she can feel free to hate me, I still wont give her the boot becuase it’s the kids who are going to suffer not her… or at least not so much.
Anyway I am happily married and my Wife is most patient with me, more than I deserve. She knows my history becuase I have not hidden anything from her, and she still chooses to stand beside me… I believe she certainly loves me and I love her. I only pray that this love continues, however like all marriages we have had ups and downs.
She has however been very loyal and sacrificed so much for me, and likewise I have done much for her so respect is a big thing if not one of the biggest factors for us. She respects me for what I am and who I am and I respect her character just as much, where I am strong in outwardness she has been just as strong and we have both led tough lives so we have a mutual respect for one another as survivors through tough times.
I only wish everyone could find such happiness. Honestly a good wife is worth a lot… love is important as is respect, without both theres nothing but with one you can at least sing along to the Bon Jovee song and make the most of what you got.