A general question:
Should a person live a married life which is void of any love, respect or understanding only because your parents want this, or because of kids or any other social compulsion? Or rather divorce that person and start a new life?
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well if one has kids then he or she has to think abt them bfore taking any desicion,otherwise if the relation is severly abusive and hard to handle at any cost,in which kids are suffering,then one shouuld take timeout from that relation,,,but if u can workout ur relation then its better....then divorce.
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Not the men are always wrong, sometimes women are also wrong. They should also think over themselves whether the problems in marriage are because of her, then should work to save her marriage even if she has no children. Respect in the society is with husbands. But if life is really tough and fault is on man side too, then should think about divorce after consulting with scholars.
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Decision is relatively easy when no kids are involved. With kids, perhaps taking timeout is the first option to try.
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Can we have any mistresses in the marriage?
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divorce
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Well thats how my marriage was, completely devoid of love or any kind of understanding and always mentally abusive which no one else got to see but me behind closed doors. Shuker hai there wer no kids so i decided to get the hell out. Obviously parents and the rest of the family wouldnt allow me to saying well if he dont drink and he dont gamble or go after other girls, then their is no valid reason for u to divorce him.
I told em strait, this is my life and I have the right to live a happy life just like all the rest of you, so if you dont like to see me happy, then the door is that way.
Well actually I showed myself the door and went and lived on my own until the ex started showing his true colours to the rest of the family and then they agreed saying ok maybe she was right that he is a bit looney and not all with it. So then that was wen my father came to me saying ok I will agree for you to divorce the guy and find someone more worthy of you.
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^^ Good for you, it takes courage to take such a stand.
Back to the OP's question, lack of love and respect kinda goes against the very basis of marriage, doesn't it? Hypothetically, if there are no kids involved, I would take a few months of heartache (divorce) over a lifetime of misery, and give myself a chance at happiness in the long term. Though of course it's much easier to think of this in a hypothetical situation..
With kids in the picture I honestly don't know.