assalamu alaykum friends,i have a problem
well im in love with a guy who doesnt even know i love him.I spoke to him once but the problem is such that i dont know about our destiny hes very rich and im from a very very simple family,though hes very rich he is equally a very good person mashallah very down to earth ready to help others.My love is onesided neither the guy nor my family know about it.He is still single.But i dont know if ever ill be able to marry him but allah knows ive loved him sincerely.my mother wants to get me married i want to come out from this illusion and fulfill my mamas wish but the problem is that i can forget him i dont want to marry someone with the thoughts of someone else in my mind it would be like cheating which is totaly unfair and wrong to that innocent guy my mum will look for..i know allah says its our duty to get married one day but i dont know what to do i dont want to marry anyone else since i cant forget the one i loved sincerely though onesided.you may think im crazy.I NEED YOUR HELP AND ADVICE PLEASE.thank you so much friends
please i would like to have you all opinions when u read my topic please make a comment
thanks to apple2005 for his/her comment.
If you have only spoken to him once then I think you're more in love with his image then himself. He may come off as a really great guy but until you really know him and his quirks...its hard to say its love. It may be love but highly unlikely.
You have two options here:
Either you can follow through with your love and see where it goes OR create some distance between him and you to make your life easier.
Aray baba, why don't you just go to him and tell him that you like the way he is... may be you can marry the one you've started to infatuate? how about that? :D
aur ammi say baaton mein puch lo, ammi jaan what if i like someone and wants to marry him? would you like to see him even once? if she says why not, then why not.. what's so bad about liking someone? IMO - if your heart truly says you are in love and cannot forget him then you can give it a try, and if you get some positive response from that decent guy then you can marry your dream boy. [so that you wouldn't have any regrets that you never even tried to tell him that you love him]
that's what my mind says.. may be you guys totally disagree with me, but i tried to be honest and gave my advice :)
It's not "love" if you don't even know the person. It would be "love" if you knew the guy well...learned about all of his flaws and imperfections and loved him in spite of them.
Please don't put your life on hold for a guy who hasn't even looked your way or talked to you. Because trust me.......life will can pass you by.......and rishtas are not easy to find. You don't want to find yourself in a state where he's married......you're heartbroken.....older and single because you wasted all these years dreaming and pining over him.
You have two choices. Either you get to know this guy by talking to him (and stay within your Islamic limits)................OR..........you make a solid decision to forget about him. I would suggest that you pray Istikhara and ask Allah to guide you to the path that is best for you.
It's not "love" if you don't even know the person. It would be "love" if you knew the guy well...learned about all of his flaws and imperfections and loved him in spite of them.
Please don't put your life on hold for a guy who hasn't even looked your way or talked to you. Because trust me.......life will can pass you by.......and rishtas are not easy to find. You don't want to find yourself in a state where he's married......you're heartbroken.....older and single because you wasted all these years dreaming and pining over him.
You have two choices. Either you get to know this guy by talking to him (and stay within your Islamic limits)................OR..........you make a solid decision to forget about him. I would suggest that you pray Istikhara and ask Allah to guide you to the path that is best *for you*.
JUST TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL. YOU WILL GET YOUR ANSWER AND THEN IT'LL BE EASIER TO MAKE A FUTURE DECISION. ITS BETTER TO LET IT OUT THEN HOLD IT IN AND REGRET IT LATER. AS YOU SAID HE IS DOWN TO EARTH, IM SURE HE WONT MAKE A SCENE EVEN IF HE DOESNT HAVE THE SAME FEELINGS.
i don know i sudnt be sayin this ......... im guessing u r a teenager atleast ur behavin like 1.
im sorry, but if u honestly look at the situation u have gotten ur self into 4 no reason , u will laugh at ur self
I see him as Saif ali khan and you as the Kajol type. Does he have a brother? Does his brother look like Akshey? Do you think you could be a model? The day you spoke to him, was he singing “holai holai” in the voice of Abhijeet?
