My husband has a friend who is more like a brother. They grew up together, went to college together and have a great bond. One of few friends that he has who he can turn to and trust. They have known each other for more than 20 years.
He’s is indeed a very nice guy. His kids are the also the same age group as ours and get along. … but my hubby can’t stand his loud, crass and nosy wife for more than hour without taking major doses of aspirin.
Should he polietly say something or give a hint or two? Invite him and his kids out without the spouse? Would this friendship last or grow?
Kinds know how he feels! Our Neighbours cam over to our house for the first time this eid - both hubby and wife. OMG when they left, hubby told me he has a headache lol. the lady wouldnt let any of us get a single word in! she was talking non stop and really loudly.
Me and hubby kind of feel sorry for her poor husband who has to put up with the FM radio!
Well if he is like a brother then that means they must share a very close relationship so he should be honest with him and let him know how he feels about his wife. However at the end of the day we all should know that having too many expectations from anyone and everyone is not good. Also be careful how he puts across his views so that he doesnt offend his friend.
You can't really invite him and not his wife, that would be very rude and if the guy is not a jerk he would definately not come and that would mean end of this friendship if that keeps happening. So you must be very careful. Alot of times you have to tolerate and let go of many things for the sake of your loved ones, i dont know how obnoxious his wife is but i am sure it can't be that bad that you have to think of not inviting her. That's little too much if you ask me.
Family friendships are a complete package. You have to take good with the bad . Your husband cannot tell his friend not to bring his wife over or tell him to put a tape on her mouth while they are visiting you guys.
They are good friends and trust each other , he can talk to his friend about his concerns but he might end up hurting his friends feeling or that friend might get a chuckle out of your husbands concerns , we do not know. so let your husband be the judge of it and come up with a way to deal with it delicately or bluntly whatever situation demands.
I have learned the hard way that you cannot pick and choose these things. Like take a single member and leave the rest out. We may not like the person but inviting half of a couple results in some resentment building in their own heart too. "They dont like my wife so why should I go there?". You dont want that happening and affecting a strong friendship. :(
Why do I got to be the babysitter? I rather play with the kids.
Hubby and his friend wanted to go hang out. Coffee and movie. I agreed to keep all the kids. She insisted that she goes along with them too. i can't do anything about that can I?
Yes you can , then you should have told her , why do I have to be the baby sitter ? " Main koi khoti noon hath la-ya ?
I will go too and the kids will go as well since we do not have a baby sitter. You are not her pal or best friend so you do not have to sacrifice you peace and quite for her. If she wants that , she has to become your pal and your BFF first before you make any kind of sacrifices for her.
So do not be a doormat , stand up for your rights.
If you cannot do that then give her my phone number and I will talk to her.
Not worth it for your husband to to say anything about the wife to his friend. Good or bad, no man wants to hear that someone else finds his wife annoying if that's her worst attribute. So long as her actions don't adversely affect your husband, kids or family, I'd suck it up and let live.
By the being babysitter… I meant babysitting HER. I can handle a dozen kids no worries there. I can eve handle her but when she goes on about how she painted her toe nails pink instead of baby pink and stick them up to show everyone - I think my hubby just hurls a bit. Bechara.
By the being babysitter.... I meant babysitting HER. I can handle a dozen kids no worries there. I can eve handle her but when she goes on about how she painted her toe nails pink instead of baby pink and stick them up to show everyone - I think my hubby just hurls a bit. Bechara.
But but but your post said she wanted to go along with the boys , so let her go and you enjoy the company of dozen kids then what is the problem then. :D
Hubby and his friend wanted to go hang out. Coffee and movie. I agreed to keep all the kids. She insisted that she goes along with them too. i can't do anything about that can I?
How did the bold part happen? Let's say your husband or her husband called each other and agreed to "hang out"....just the 2 of them. Why and how did you babysitting kids come in the picture?
Paheli: All of them were over at our house for dinner. The guys decided to go out after dinner.
Ah....no offense but bad planning on the guys part.
How often does you husband hang out with his friend?
Perhaps he can just ask his friend to hang out with him somewhere outside the house? Ie: Instead of inviting the friend's family over for dinner....your hubby can call his friend and ask the friend to meet him for dinner somewhere? Or go with him to check out some show or whatever. And invite the entire family over ONLY on special occassions (such as kids bdays, Eid etc.).
In the above scenario, your husband can still maintain his friendship and hang out with his friend. You and husband can invite his family over on special occassions so that he (or his wife) has no reason to suspect any "bad feelings" or feel offended.
After hearing that the look at her husband’s face would be something to look at. 
