Love vs. Obsession

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Re: Love vs. Obsession

@Gemini_the_Great

I was just wondering if you know of any parents who regret holding their baby too much? or having them sleep with them?

I keep hearing this all over the place that dont hold your baby too much when they are young (and since my baby isnt here yet, I can not picture myself not holding my baby all the time- and yes I may spoil him) and even though I have the bassinet and crib and want him to sleep in there but if he insisted on sleeping with me, I will not mind neither do I think that I will regret it.. they grow up soo soon that we will miss these moments!!

mind you my baby isnt here yet but I am kind of tried of people telling me not to hold your baby too much and establish the rules from day one.. I dun see myself establishing strict rules! am I a bad mother

I don’t think it will make you a bad mother. I think flexibility with stability is necessary for parenting.

I was so good about getting madam sleeping on her own. She slept in her bassinett and then in a crib in her room. It was great until she hit 8 months and then around 1 year. She’s too aware of everything and conscious of separation. She wanted none of that. Currently her crib is a toddler bed and pushed up against our bed. That’s the compromise we’ve come to. Need to slowly transition her to have the toddler bed in our room, but separate from the bed (just waiting for her to get better at climbing up and down).

But my point is that kid’s go through phases and their routines are constantly changing, and we need to be able to adapt while remaining in control.

And you can’t cuddle and hold your baby too much. You can’t spoil them with love.