well my firend ____ she loves her cousin n he loves her also
they love eachother
but the problem is that ____s family members dont like the guys family
there are always conflicts between them
example- ____s sister n the guys sister have issues
n its the same 4 the parents
i mean yeah they will pretend they like each other but then later they complain about each other
and _____ knows that her dad is right about them and that they r unfair 2 her family at times
but she doesnt know what 2 do cuz shes in love and the guys family treats her well she gets along with them they love her and shes really close 2 his sister
so the guys family is gonna comeover and ask 4 her hand but shes afraid what if her parents reject the proposal
she doesnt kno what she should do? go againt her family and tell them that she wants 2 marry him
go against her dad "shes a daddys lil girl "
bcuz the lovebirds been thru so much 2gether
i dont know what advice 2 give her
i can feel her pain, its a difficult situation
I think the familes both should come to an agreement and let the kids get married. Because its about their happiness. They need to put their differences aside. And she needs to talk to her parents and let them know how imp this is, and see what they have to say. And i'm sure the parents willl not give a no on the first meeting, so i think shes safe.
I believe they should wait until after the family comes over and then see what her father has to say.
She should listen to her father's reasons for rejection IF he even does reject the guy. If they make sense, she should consider it. If his reasons are simply stubborn ones, then tell her to take a stand for her love.
Your friend should wait to listen to her parents' response...........which she will know about in greater detail AFTER her cousin and his parents make the proposal. She should consider her parents views especially if they are valid. As Psquared **suggested, if their reasons are not valid, then she should try to gently **convince them. But keep in mind, that IF such a scenario takes place where both sets of parents are being unreasonable............then all the convincing your friend does.....................will amount to*NOTHING* if the guy himself is not strong enough to persistently pursue this rishta.
The positive thing here is that the guy's family LIKES your friend. They have NO problem with HER. Hopefully their attitude will continue to be positive toward your friend in spite of the guy's interest in her. Also............let's assume that they get married..........will your friend be living with her in-laws or not? If there is ALREADY an unspoken tense vibe between the two families...........such a situation can be challenging.
try to covince parents b4 rishta comes. if it doesn't work let it go. i don't think one should marry someone against parent's wishes. ma, baap ko naraz kernay se Allah bhi naraz hota hai. n wats the point of a marriage where u don't get parent's duas?
n i don't understand wat u mean by" they hav been thru a lot together?"
I know someone who is going thru this situation aswell and all Im going to say is that nothing is more important than Family...i have seen how a family has been shattered by this before and I really feel for that family....Your parents take care of you for so many years and love and care 4 u....nothing is as imp as them...u may find many guys who love you in your life...but you wont find parents ever again...
try to covince parents b4 rishta comes. if it doesn't work let it go. i don't think one should marry someone against parent's wishes. ma, baap ko naraz kernay se Allah bhi naraz hota hai. n wats the point of a marriage where u don't get parent's duas?
n i don't understand wat u mean by" they hav been thru a lot together?"
I totally agree with her having the discussion with her parents about her wishes before the rishta comes. She's more likely to convice her parents and get a positive response if she speaks to them beforehand and sets out her reasoning rather than the guys family coming and the parents going into the intitial meeting with reservations - it'll show in their attitude and possibly make for a tense situation. Also, it'll give her parents a chance to voice their concerns as well - they may have some legitimate issues that she herself is unaware of or has not thought about.