oh no devilicious.. hehe they're engaged Alhamdulillah.. the reason why i was saying they need to realise theirs a world beyond each other is cus her study is being affected and indirectly its hurting her parents as they've worked so hard to get her there... thats all.. he doesnt need to fight for her.. we already did that for him hehe..
oppps..
ehhh.. love can do that... did ur bro talk to her about it.. or maybe he can pull bak a little so when shes not with him or talkin to him, she might just study u kno...
yeah i yelled at him :D hehe.. na he has been talknig to her about it.. shes pretty sweet.. ive jsut been telling her that she should spend as much of her single life with her family cus she wont get this chance later.. i hope ke usse meri baat ki samaj aajaye...
Wont u feel proud if you have both???
Believe me its much better when ure parents/ family accept the guy, u wont have 2 leave the family then.
Godforbid if u ever have any problems then ure family wont be there to help u out if u left them also... THINK about this!!
NEVER EVER.. TO LEAVE FAMILY FOR ANY GUY NEVER.
I CAN NOT UNDERSTAND HOW PEOPLE CAN LEAVE THERE FAMILY/PARENTS BECAUSE OF `LOVE´....
ooh c'mon u wont giv a **** about ur family if its all messed up!
haha, for me the choice is clear. If the guy is a sweetheart and a keeper, ofcourse I wud choose him over my family. I mean anyways my family is gonna send me packing sometime, so what's wrong if I take that decision myself.
My opinion is that, if you can leave your family for love, you can leave
your love for another better love.
chalo chalain 
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haha, for me the choice is clear. If the guy is a sweetheart and a keeper, ofcourse I wud choose him over my family. I mean anyways my family is gonna send me packing sometime, so what's wrong if I take that decision myself.
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even if you have to leave your family forever????
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huh? anyways yer family will kick u out once u are 25 or 26 ( get u married to some paindu).. so, what the heck is wrong if I choose my own life partner?
^^ you dont leave your family because you love some one.
And if your partner cant understand this then he/she/it really dosent love you.
think about it this way when you will get old and your kids will leave you because they love some one hmmm , what will be your thought.
Love mean understanding and compromise not selfishness
you guys are seriously messed up! Since when is choosing who to love on your own = leaving your family for good?
yeah yeah our desi parents are crazy and will pull all kinds of emotional blackmail to control
every aspect of your life! So you're saying you would then also marry someone you dont care for just out of love for your family?
Here's another way to look at it..lets assume the person you love is just right for you..
how great is the love of your family if they forbid you from being happy by marrying someone you love of your own free will?
just ditch em both :o
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you guys are seriously messed up! Since when is choosing who to love on your own = leaving your family for good?
yeah yeah our desi parents are crazy and will pull all kinds of emotional blackmail to control
every aspect of your life! So you're saying you would then also marry someone you dont care for just out of love for your family?
Here's another way to look at it..lets assume the person you love is just right for you..
how great is the love of your family if they forbid you from being happy by marrying someone you love of your own free will?
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exactly! It is just pathetic to see how parents out of sheer ego or fear of society forbid their kids from marrying people who they know are perfect for their kids and wud keep them happier than any paindu they might choose for them.
Love for family etc all is fine shine, but I can't go about runing my life to keep their egos nourished. If I find someone perfect for me, they ought to accept him for they claim to love me.
You people have never faced such a situation and thus u all talk. Keep in mind, atlast every being is on his/her own and has to look out for his/her own happiness.
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**Here's another way to look at it..lets assume the person you love is just right for you..*
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i don't mean any offence to anyone. If i may just point out, humbly - that's a huge assumption to go on isn't it. How do you know, absolutely KNOW for a fact, that that person will be "just right" for you ? And how do you know that the person your parents would prefer, would NOT be right ...
Just my two cents. There is nothing in life that is guaranteed. The 'perfect' love can turn imperfect after some time. For all the talk about finding one's true lifelong partner, the increasing divorce statistics from US and Canada bear witnesses to the fact that what one believes is perfect "love" may not always be that. Parents would never want what's wrong for anyone... If they have spent 20 years raising you, surely they may have some justification in possessing desires (which are very different than demands) for their children.
Just my two cents.