If you guys really loved someone, how big a role would their education and how smart they are academically really matter?
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I think education and career does matter in relationships. Mostly in desis...but there are other girls too who do not care all these factors.
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^i agree
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love education 
then there wont b any funda 
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Education plays a big and important role in our lives. Both husband and wife should be very well educated so that they can do a good upbringing.
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if you are planning on getting hitched, then you got to look at the big picture especially the issue of raising and protecting your kids. so if one hasn't been through the education system, then they wouldn't be able to relate to the day-to-day problems their children might face at school.
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NO, i don't mind as long as he knows his ABC and 123, but seriosly yeah to a decent level - its not a must for both man and wife to be on the same level of education, like he's a graduate and she should be too- but both should have a strong background - coz you don't wana marry a jahil who cant multiply a zero by 1 now do ya?
Its not only the level of education that will make ur marriage work, but the knowledge of islam u have as well.
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its not only the kids ....kids come much later.......
if u & ur significnt other are not on par as far as education is concerned .... U won't have much of a relationship once that first "euphoria of being " in love " subsides & U find U don't have much common ground.......someone who hasn't been through a similar education/work environment cannot relate to the stresses involved or appreciate what the other goes through........
asides from the usual intellectual disparity that would ultimately arise there would also be issues regarding dissimilar salary scales especially if the woman was earning more than the man.......
again arguements concerning children's upbringing have already been discussed so i won't get into those...
Lastly all that crap about love overcoming all barriers is utter BS........if U & ur spouse don't have common ground the relationship will die an untimely death....
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^ true!
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dont have to be the same career but yes have to be at that level of education as I will be. More than just degree other factors count as well. Should know how to carry himself in society/family/frens and how to respect everyone around. Whats the point when u r a doctor n marry a doctor who only knows how to treat patients but then lacking other factors as well which do play imp part in the relationship.
As far as common ground [im taking it as degree-to-degree] required for love/marriage - it can only n should be possible for Doctors b/c they are the one who need to understand working hrs n stress level of their work but then we can’t say 100% work that way. If we r talking about common ground [as in same interests n same level of smartness but not degree] then yea it is possible - i dont see why not. I have seen ppl where girl is a doc n guy is with some other higher degree and are happily married.
I dont even know what Im saying 
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Ofcourse education would always be on the top of my list!
I wouldnt want to marry some freshie who doesnt even know what further education is 
I mean come on!
It would be embarrassing for him too right? Having a wife who is more “smarter” than him? It also causes tension between each other as well, sometimes. And like emm said, its also abt how he carries himself around everyone.
and then what? when u have kids? they’re gna come home at the end of the day to one parent asking for help on hwk and the other parent gets jealous? 
ahhh nevermind…life1 was never for me anyways.
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A Bachelors or Masters or PhD is useless without the drive to learn / seek knowledge.
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Education plays a big and important role in our lives. Both husband and wife should be very well educated so that they can do a good upbringing.
completely agree with HHL love widout education n career seems a bit err useless
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intelligence without arrogance is majorly attractive
practically speaking a well educated person is a person with a good job in the future and that shows stability which is necessary when you get married and start a family. Love alone can't put food on the table
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there's a big difference between being educated & being smart, many have great educations behind them but not many are much more smarter than the average guy working in a warehouse, the only difference in most cases is the standard of english they speak. In my experience, going through education doesn't make you smarter but allows you to use your intelligence to learn in depth your chosen subject, at most it opens your mind, does not mean having a degree = smart.
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education normally is a very good thing to have in case of finding a soul mate in your spouse also. please make sure that when you are placing that respect for someone, he /she is able to respond in kind.
education enables couples to act intelligently and also with confidence for each other. everything from interpersonal relations to beginning a family will get impacted by the quality of education one had and the consequent values or learning with which you act and react.
being educated in the true sense, enables the person to be responsible and thinking, rational and patient. panic, doubtfulless, and unfounded fears are caused by uneducated ness.
something that is quite common in uneducated families when they deal with educated people. many educated people and families will be a lot more acomodating than uneducated people and families, and those uneducated ones who are manipulated or let down by 'insensitive arrogant uneducated-educated ones', that is a diff kind of issue which does get resolved in favor of the ' honest and patient uneducated educated person!'
education helps become a shield for your spouse. mental and emotional compatability with the spouse and his or her family. uneducattion causes a class difference which is sad to state it like this, but it is true. it has nothing to do with more or less money that one side has or does not. choosing an educated spouse is a very good thing. however, putting down a spouse who is not educated in real or is uneducated is not a good thing to do.
best,
Dushwari
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there's a big difference between being educated & being smart, many have great educations behind them but not many are much more smarter than the average guy working in a warehouse, the only difference in most cases is the standard of english they speak. In my experience, going through education doesn't make you smarter but allows you to use your intelligence to learn in depth your chosen subject, at most it opens your mind, does not mean having a degree = smart.
well yea you're right that intelligence doesn't always mean that a person is very well educated but you have to admit that being well educated does mean that you would get a well paying job that would help you in providing for the family.