LOL! believe me hitchki he’s got ENUF attention he doesnt deserve any more!!
I blv they keep they're options open ;)
If a guy is honest and sincere.. they'd tell the girl firmly instead of toying around with words.. and sedning out mixed signals and waiting for the situation to get messy.
as unfortunate as it sounds i think he myt be keeping his options open too. both girls are beautiful and there could be a slight problem with his girl as her family are really strict and she has 5 brothers who would beat the crap outta him if they knew he was on the scene! he myt jus get his bones broken and go crawling to my friend! i dunno time will tell all
The guy is not ready for commitment, at all. So doesn't matter which girl pursues him, it's not getting anywhere worthy.
thats the thing im not sure about his level of commitment. When i ask him how serious are u about her he goes i dont know, anything could happen tomorrow. And its like he agrees shes perfect wifey material but hes still so unsure i told him if ur in a relationshi with the girl and shes decent theres nothing wrong with taking it a step further as that would be the next step to take.. Hes so confused himself, i dont know if hes afraid of the commitment or afraid of making the wrong decision!!!!!
but either way im gna give my friend a firm talking to coz even though i told her to back off i still was analysing his behaviour towards her and i guess she doesnt need that from me. If i remind her of her position i suppose itll save her from alot of trouble too and make her firmer with her decision
thanks girls for all ur help!!!
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your comment reminds me of the film he's just not that into you, dunno if you've seen it or not but i think i need to give her a blunt reminder of it coz i suppose what u sed is soo true. The problem is evryone else around her is encouraging her to do sumthing about it and its confusing her, leading her to 'read' into what he said or what hes done!! I think ill tell her to forget ANY sort of misconceptions she has of the guy and until she aint sure il tell her to back off completely although that maybe slightly difficult i know shes maintaing a slight distance from him so its a start!!
thanks RV :)
Faari,
I was basing my advice on the book/movie, He's Just Not That Into You, lol. I was going to mention it in my previous post but then I thought "never mind." It's funny you picked that up.
I believe many girls (myself included) have been in a situation where we receive "mixed signals" from guys. And girls often make excuses for the guys' on-and-off flirtatious behavior such as "oh he's jut shy and that's why he's not asking me out"......or "he's afraid of commitment"........."or if he's desi, he's afraid of his mommy's wrath." If a guy really truly wants to pursue you......he will go after you. And if he does pursue you, he needs to be open about it and should be with **ONE **girl.
It's very possible that this guy is leading your friend on (either intentionally or unknowingly). However it is also possible that he's just being a good friend and since your friend has a crush on him....she could be misinterpreting his actions. We like to "see" things our way......know what I mean? When you have a crush on someone....every little thing (a smile, eye contact, etc) seems like A HUGE DEAL and you think that these little things must have some romantic significance because you** want** to "see" *things in that way. Keep in mind that I could also be wrong and maybe this guy truly is leading her on or has feelings for her.
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Bottom line: If the guy hasn't expressed his feelings toward her, then his actions mean nothing. And your friend should keep a distance so as to avoid getting too hurt. And also so that people don't start pointing fingers at her. Why are other people encouraging her to "go for it"??? Well, perhaps they're looking for some drama. And she doesn't need that type drama in her life nor does she need to entertain others. She needs to maintain a distance. If he sincerely likes her, he'll let her know and end things with his current girl friend. Right now (if this dude is leading her on)....it shows that he has no respect for your friend's emotions......and nor does he respect his girlfriend.
How would ur friend would feel if somebody does the same to her??? i think she is not going to like it...
What a characterless boy, flirted with one and now looking for 2nd, what garantees are their that he'll not go for the third one!!!
My view, ur friend is the problem and guy himself is root of the problem, if she is really shareef and decent girl, she should stay away from him, otherwise she might do a favor to the first girl...
Even if you go with the idea that he is a guy and cannot control himself and blah blah blah...your friend knew he was taken. Why did she get involved with someone who belongs to another girl? Does she think she is doing the right thing by following her heart and not her morals...like they have no connection?
One very strong point that many people ignore is that a relationship that starts bad ends bad. If you deceive someone...you're in for it too. Maybe not now...but you can count on it later. He may be amazing, perfect for her and her soul mate...but he isnt hers. And until he VOLUNTARILY walks away from his current girlfriend on his own...he will never be hers.
He may seem shareef to you girls but I dont trust this guy at all. He is with someone who is probably in love with him and flirting with your friend giving her mixed signals and getting her emotionally messed up! Ladies, wisen up please! These men are not your soul mates if they are married/dating/in a relationship with another woman and professing undying devotion to you (not saying dude has done that)!
If your friend becomes the reason this couple breaks up...she will only be happy for about 1.2 seconds...then it will go downhill. Its Karma and it catches up with you at the oddest of times. The best thing to do is to let him go right away. If they are meant to be together...Allah swt will bring them together even if the guy is in Antarctica. If not, then he was never hers to have.
I hope your friend does the right thing and starts avoiding him. When you're on your trip, try to stay with her at all times and dont leave her alone with him anywhere. Distract her, help her stay busy, tell her she has her own future to explore and there is a man out there for her.
back off.... he is taken !
they may be doing the "everything is fair in love and war" routine.:) they wont take your advice. humans are selfish creatures.
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The GUY is player. Very simple answer.
He won't marry either of them.
Cheap girls go after boys. Cheapest them all go after taken one. Cheap boy go after another girls. So the conclusion is They are all CHEAP.
Sorry I know truth hurts but I can't stop myself from telling the truth to ppl.
PSQ sometimes a guy hides the fact that he's "taken" to keep his options open..
Faari I wouldn't even get involved at all.. at the end it's all going to be messy for u.
PSQ sometimes a guy hides the fact that he's "taken" to keep his options open..
Faari I wouldn't even get involved at all.. at the end it's all going to be messy for u.
Agree.
The GUY is player. Very simple answer.
He won't marry either of them.
Cheap girls go after boys. Cheapest them all go after taken one. Cheap boy go after another girls. So the conclusion is They are all CHEAP.
Sorry I know truth hurts but I can't stop myself from telling the truth to ppl.
excuse me, you have no idea what type of person my friend is so ur judgment of her being cheap is not appreciated. How would you like it if your friendship with a guy went down a different route which you didnt plan and people started calling you cheap?!?!
If narrow minds cannot grasp the concept of the situation thats not my fault so kindly retract your words!!
I agree she isnt in the best of situations but she wants to make sure shes doing the right thing. I didnt ask for your condemnations of my friend whilst writing this thread i merely asked for your advice in how i could help her and if you cannot help then ur name calling posts are better off not being written!!!!!
excuse me, you have no idea what type of person my friend is so ur judgment of her being cheap is not appreciated. How would you like it if your friendship with a guy went down a different route which you didnt plan and people started calling you cheap?!?! If narrow minds cannot grasp the concept of the situation thats not my fault so kindly retract your words!!
I agree she isnt in the best of situations but she wants to make sure shes doing the right thing. I didnt ask for your condemnations of my friend whilst writing this thread i merely asked for your advice in how i could help her and if you cannot help then ur name calling posts are better off not being written!!!!!
Faari,
The words which you found offensive in the above post won't be retracted by the individual, hon. So it's best to take the advice that you find most reasonable and implement it. You're doing the right thing by advising your friend to maintain a distance from this guy. We're human beings....we can't control who we fall for. When you fall for someone...it just happens. But fortunately we can also use brain (not just our heart) when it comes to making decisions. And the logical thing to do would be to maintain a distance as you've already suggested. If it helps your friend, make a list of pros and cons with her. Right now, there are several cons. For example 1) He shouldn't be treating his girlfriend like this 2) If he is indeed leading your friend on (knowing or unknowingly) , it's wrong 3) Your friend wouldn't want fingers pointed at her in the future. 4) Your friend herself doesn't want to feel guilty for possibly playing a role in diverting someone that's already taken. So, keeping all these things in mind, it's best for her to back down and away from this guy. And your friend is a smart girl, deep down she knows that it's the best thing to do. ;)
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lol! thanks RV =) and i thought gr8heera was a girl but after reading ur post it seems like its a guy thanks for clarifying that with me
Also i love the list idea.... Its perfect... It'll definatly make her stronger in carrying out her decision to avoid him!! Ill get onto that as soon as she starts to falter coz at the moment were having exams and not seeing much of each other =( It'll come into use when were all interacting once again though
Once again thank you all for ur advice =)
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Scenario One(my fav)
Men loyal(loyal NOT faithful) to their women, will still avail a chance of getting laid with a random Bytch. That's how men are. Mostly any ways.
He will still do evey thing to keep his real relation going!!
Scenario Two:
Your friend CAN keep working her a$$ off to make that dude fall for her; BUT she can keep calling it CASUAL.. easy breezy (My A$$) Telling every one its nothing.
Scenario There:
Some dudes are actually polite toward woman, In real relation there is love, there are fights and then furious fights. But same dude can be polite to a NON-girl friend all the time. That does not mean he Loves NON-girl-friend girl. Your girl could be little too perceptive to the signals, the dude even may not be sending!!!
Scenario Four: (with grace)
If she thinks dude is so worth, and she is most amazing for him too. TELL her to CUT HIM lose. LEt him go away; politely. He knows your friend enough, and if he really feels the way your frind wanting him to feel he will eventually come back.
^ONLY GRACEFULL AND RESPECTED WAY!!!!!! since she is a woman I doubt that she would ever do that!!!
PS:: Women!!!!
PS:: Grace is not really known to paki chicks.
Very bad words Mr jimmy kimble
PS:: its soo bate whos multi u r 
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Playstation/X box and wiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii :halo:
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This is rather amazing. Now if a guy would have done this all you women would be crawling over yourselves to insult him. Oddly enough you are blaming the guy. When he has done nothing wrong.
Now firstly according to these two girls, the guy treats the second girl better than his girlfriend. What is this value judgement based upon? The comparision must be objective and not subjective. Frankly I think they are seeing what they want to see and not what is actually there. Has the guy blown off his girlfriend to see the other girl? Has the guy done something he normally doesn't do for his girlfriend for this other girl? We have no facts. Simple assumptions by two girls who see what they want to see.
There are no hard facts only assumptions. Oddly enough for you ladies its enough that a girl says there are mixed signals to accept it as law. What if they are reading too much into this which is the case 90% of the time.
We have no facts, simply one statement and you harpies are ready to feed. Well done. You do your gender a great dis-service.
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Speaking about triangles.
An Ex of mine took ME AND her newly wedded husband to movie together.
Then bytch sits in the middle!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! me one left hubby on right.
Seriously women how do you pull stunts like that????????????
I mean if the guy is in love with you don';t feed him Shyt!!! by telling your relation with Ex/other-man divine.
Anyways; at that time i thought her hubby was a sucker. But later I went through same shyt. Then I felt like how shyt tastes like.
LOL , not sometimes , most of the times.
Not a bad analysis.
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^ lolzzz
Its hardly a"love" triangle. Guy want to tap that A$$.
To women it is "talking" "singles" "taking-care" "freaking options"
You know what though; women arent that stupid they get played with thier own will and then blame it on dudes.
Dudes dont give rat's A$$ about it.
if dude seal the deal on that A$$; call it success. If not its a failed attempt.