i am not a regular member of this forum but i need everyone’s help… i live in USA and i have been friend with a guy that lives in Pakistan. we are very gud friend and now in love..no one else knows about it… the guy is 21 and trying to establish his life.. my parents r in a hurry to get me married.. i don,t know how to tell my parents that i love this guy … help is needed
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Do your parents know this guy? Like through family etc. If so maybe you can get some khala or pupho or someone you're close to to mention something to your parents about a rishta, or maybe strike it up with your mum first while you're alone?
just tell them..say it..blurt it out..what is the worst that can happen? they l slap u?..so what..big deal!.. itll be better than the anxiety ur in now
u are in USA and he is in Pakistan, it doesn't sound possible.
make sure u are really in love!
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jus be careful hun... it had happend wid sum1 i knw closely... and she has realized lot of facts later... same case as u r telling...
P.S. jus a quick quest... do u knw him personally or thru internet??
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how old are you?
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How old are you? If you're around 21, I am not sure why your are parents in a hurry. But in any case, you should have a clear conversation with him about how ready he is and how long it will take him etc. Then talk to you parents.
Like everyone said, make sure things are real. If they are, I would suggest you wait it out until both of you are ready and then marry him. Just because timing right now is not right, does not mean you jeopardize your relationship by choosing to be with someone else, who you do not love as of right now.
If he is THE guy, don't let him go just because it will be too difficult to talk to parents, or he is not ready right now etc. Everyone faces problems in life, everyone. We face them more willingly when we know that we chose them. Choose what you know you can live with.
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Beta yeh net ki prem kahani hai? If yes, forget it. If you know him in real life then before you break the news to your parents I would advice you to weigh the pros and cons. How old is he? Are you sure he isn't marrying you for your passport? Sorry if I sound harsh but these are the questions you have to think about :)
Beta yeh net ki prem kahani hai? If yes, forget it. If you know him in real life then before you break the news to your parents I would advice you to weigh the pros and cons. How old is he? Are you sure he isn't marrying you for your passport? Sorry if I sound harsh but these are the questions you have to think about :)
i agree with mama...i wonder how can 1 fall in love on net...you never know who that person is? i have heard 2-3 horrible stories love on net so better forget him my dear....anyway how old are you..if he is only 21 then he is not mature enough to get married.
How old are you shinningstar?
:k:
I agree that 21 is quite young, but I have seen some marriages where the guys were between 19-22 and they were surprisingly mature.
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first of all a guy saying he is in love with u and mein tumharay bageir nahi reh sakta, raat ko akailay neend nahi ati n stuff is a total BS!!!!!
nobody and read my words nobody in this world dies for anybody. U come alone and go alone!!!!!
21-25 is the peak age when boys are hell emotional and in sense the love sh!t is tormenting them. Because they know, the only way u can get ANYTHING from a female is to show how much u love her, they will care for u, talk to u, give suggestions and become the most sweetest things on the planet!!!
its a total whole ball game my dear. As soon as the balls goes into their court, then ur 1-nil
;)
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thx u guys the after reading all this comment i am giving a serious though...
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Be careful and if he is serious, he will do things the right way by informing his parents first and then take it from there.
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what if its the other way round:hmmm:
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If a guy involves his family asap, this shows he is serious in the relationship. The best thing is to get the family involved and see how things move...
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How do you know that what he is saying on the net is all true. What if he is a fat , ugly , bald , one eyed 55 year old chacha.
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How do you know that what he is saying on the net is all true. What if he is a fat , ugly , bald , one eyed 55 year old chacha.
Fat, ugly, bald, one eyed 55 year old chacha needs some love too. :(
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Fat, ugly, bald, one eyed 55 year old chacha needs some love too. :(
Sure go ahead , nobody is stopping you.
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fat, ugly, bald, one eyed 55 year old chacha could get a 40 year old chachi for himself... leave the bhateeejis alone please :P
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fat, ugly, bald, one eyed 55 year old chacha could get a 40 year old chachi for himself... leave the bhateeejis alone please :P
Yep.