Re: Love Phenomenon
man with a plan,
Yes, it can be replaced with responsibility.
whenever trust is revoked, hope is born. dont call it a waste.
it is in fact a mark that one is honest and the other is not or does not care to be.
but each and every aspect of a relationship that is specifically woman- man, is and ought to be also equated on the basis of inner and outer affinity with each other, psychologically and due to that, under noble pact of marriage, physically, becaus ethe next generation could be an outcome of it.
love is not and ought not to be deceit.
you are so rudimentary in your idea of love.
do you know, what it is?
care + regard + confidence + trust + longing + prayers for the well being of the person who is loved + being straight forward to the person you love for his /her own good + not giving up = true love
but then, this is not a definition liked and adoptable by all mankind.
some women in the ontext of women-men relationship give so much respect to men, that at times, men cannot handle that respect, for they were never accorded that love.
the problem is that people in a given society can be so hung up on norms or scare of not-norms, that they totally forego their own ability to create a loving relationship, fortified by marital contract, on the basis of their God given right of choice, and personal responsibility.
will you marry and share your life and person with someone who you have never met beforeand all of a sudden are asked to marry that person?
worst, are you somebody who befriended someone and then after sharing all your burdens with, made off to a new person, whom you married in a hurry?
that is man-like?
love, my friend, is not a phenomenon which should be justified as an accident.
when Allah swt makes way for someone to come close to you, rest is also on you to make it work. i might be too hopeful about the will power of human beings, without violating the rights of loves ones like parents, but seeing men change, is a glaring evidence of how premature their suffering is due to their inability to make a decision and be without doubts, at least until they hacve reason to confirm their doubts.
in any event, thing happen when they are destined to by Allah swt's preordained scheme, and in that, Almighty has asked human beings to be forthright and follow through.
you cant hood wink yourself from your side of the carriage of supporting this very human emotion called love i.e. care for whomever you harbor it.
best,
Love is deceit. Love is manupliation. Love is vague. No one can replace it with rationality. The only way one can experience is by the way of feeling and most of the time it is a heart ache. We take solace in one good moment when entire life washes away in hopelessness. Why push yourself in thinking that you have to do more or you are unlucky, ugly or many of those superficial things that the great society puts out? Why waste your entire life on some hope?
Love can be replaced by responsiblity and norms, which are more clearer. Responsiblity of a father to raise kids, mother to take care and children to follow the lead. One can lead a perfectly normal life without love. no?
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