Love online

[queen_24]

Re: Love online

@GlobalGal

very happy for you queen_24 but sometimes I think even with regular offline face to face love how do you know that it’s really love though? Out of the online love stories i’ve heard the ones that ended in divorce, the behavior and especially compatibility weren’t really deeply looked at during the online n phone sessions. Both just wanted to show society that it was “love” and a “you’ve got mail” type of a superficial hollywood love story but didn’t really think about whether it would work out long term. The two online love stories ended tragically where the guys ended up being completely different from how the women thought the guys were from their online and over the phone chats.

Superficially they seemed to click and before marriage everything seemed hunky dory but after marriage the feelings of the guys were just superficial and the phone and online chats didn’t really cause love n caring to happen as the women initially thought was the case.

after a few years of being married, one couple had a very volatile and painful marriage that lasted more than 10 yrs mainly because the two people slept in separate rooms and lead separate lives during most of their abusive marriage where the woman lived in fear. The way she described her love story before her marriage, I really felt like trying it too. The other couple that thought it was real love online and that they were really compatible were married for 5 yrs the last two yrs of which the two lived in separate houses.

I guess sometimes people try too hard to prove to others that they found love and their story is special instead of looking at reality and what they’ve gotten themselves into with this whole online love thing.

I don’t think I’ll try it because marriage is such a huge risk and especially after the two examples i’ve seen.

GG- First of all, its has not only seen in online cases but some offline/ arranged marriages/ rishta anty/ cousin marriages/ uni,college marriages…go through the same situations, where after marriage you come to know that the person wasn’t compatible for you… the entire picture that you have sketched here doesn’t necessarily belong only to the online cases… its all about luck, there has been a famous saying…Shadi aik Juwwa hay!!

I feel sorry for both the couples you mentioned.

As far as people trying too hard to prove to others about their true love… I don’t know why you even said that… I am not trying proving here anyone anything… I don’t even need to…as far as I am happy with my husband I dont need to let the world know Oh ha… I am so lucky to have an online love …
Cases you described here are giving me negative vibes as you are too much focused on how people are managing difficulties in Niji Zindagiyan and how they define it to others as if targeting me. I don’t really care what people do.

Its up to you whether you try it or not because you can not be sure of having a compatible partner even if you find him personally unless you don’t marry him and live with him. Do you think one would find a partner personally and he/she won’t have to handle with the behaviors/attitude/compatibilities etc?? You can’t be sure of spending a superficial hollywood love story if you find him personally and not online!! So setting a standard in your mind about how online rishtas turn out to be is fuzool. Because nothing can guarantee you!!

I have seen cases where couple divorced in one month of their marriage and even those who divorced after their Silver Jubilees.. so there is no guarantee how long will your marriage run unless you are not able to handle it… AND ofcourse…in some cases, its LUCK!!
Good luck to you for your search
I pray whether you find someone online or personally, arranged or anywhere, it turns out to be a successful marriage and tumhe kisi bhi compatibility/behavior issues se do chaar naa hona paray