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Sometime back I read a paper on that , and according to that paper most of the online relationships are a flop .
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^Yeh. I'm sure some go on to work out irl and people get married. But in my experience, those are ones that start of as friendships and develop into love once the two people start meeting IRL.
(@KKF) sorry, i don't believe it.
you might think it's real but you're only seeing one side to a person. you don't know if the interaction would be the same irl, you don't know how they interact with other people irl or anything. it's largely a fantasy.
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well, thats opinion and i do NOT argue with that but i know what it was...pure love...and i think i know better about my love than anyone else...thanx for ur input....:)**
** well, thats opinion and i do NOT argue with that but i know what it was...pure love...and i think i know better about my love than anyone else...thanx for ur input....:)**
so you know that you would have loved this person and everything about them offline too? people can be completely different online and offline.
i'm sure you were in love with what you were exposed to and that's only what the other person wants you to see.
what i'm saying is, that love is not real as compared to how you feel with your lifelong partner, with the person you share your real life with. when you find that, compare it to what you had before and you will see for yourself.
so you know that you would have loved this person and everything about them offline too? people can be completely different online and offline.
i'm sure you were in love with what you were exposed to and that's only what the other person wants you to see.
what i'm saying is, that love is not real as compared to how you feel with your lifelong partner, with the person you share your real life with. when you find that, compare it to what you had before and you will see for yourself.
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i think 5 years is a lonnnng time to know someone in N out on or offline...anyways...thank you :) **
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stoppit, I think that there is nothing to say that falling in love with a fantasy is not love. It may be an unrealistic love, but love was never based on rationality. I think the only real love is self-love anyway, we all fall in adore with our own reflections, whether that be in the physical or cyber world.
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As oppose to a guy you've seen a few times before marriage in an arranged setting? And that's love? But people make decisions on such little information.
stoppit, I think that there is nothing to say that falling in love with a fantasy is not love. It may be an unrealistic love, but love was never based on rationality. I think the only real love is self-love anyway, we all fall in adore with our own reflections, whether that be in the physical or cyber world.
I realise that. But what is the point of unrealistic love? What are you going to do with it?
Thinking that such love = a potential solid relationship in the physical world, is ridiculous. That was my point.
As oppose to a guy you've seen a few times before marriage in an arranged setting? And that's love? But people make decisions on such little information.
Who said that's love? They are hoping (forcing) love to blossom.
If I was ever in that situation, I think I'd rather have 1 meeting in real life than a week of chatting in cyberspace.
Have you never met anyone who you knew online and had a good rapport with, only to want to punch them in the face within 10mins of meeting them in the real world?
I realise that. But what is the point of unrealistic love? What are you going to do with it? .
Thats what I said to Romeo
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Hmm. I haven't met any romantic potentials face to face. But I have met some people here in real life and I did not feel like punching them in the face...
so you know that you would have loved this person and everything about them offline too? people can be completely different online and offline. i'm sure you were in love with what you were exposed to and that's only what the other person wants you to see. what i'm saying is, that love is not real as compared to how you feel with your lifelong partner, with the person you share your real life with. when you find that, compare it to what you had before and you will see for yourself.
no one loves "everything" about their partner. online relationships can and do progress into marriages, i know of real live examples. ofcourse these people met each other before they got married, but it was as little as once in a couple of months. what kept their relationship going was commitment and real love. the thing with online love is, you don't know how serious it can be unless you experience it yourself.
no one loves "everything" about their partner. online relationships can and do progress into marriages, i know of real live examples. ofcourse these people met each other before they got married, but it was as little as once in a couple of months. what kept their relationship going was commitment and real love. the thing with online love is, you don't know how serious it can be unless you experience it yourself.
i said they do (online to marriage)... i also know real life examples. i'm saying that the 'real' love only begins when you meet in real life. for some people this progresses naturally form the online love and they don't notice. for others it withers away as soon as they meet and it's the end of that.
i know very well how serious it can be. i also know how dangerous is can be.
i have a friend who's online to real life relationship has changed his outlook forever for the worse. the thing is, had he met this girl in real life initially (as opposed to online), i doubt they would have ever started dating. he knows it too. that's the problem and that's why the love is based on a fantasy one creates about the other person.
I agree with marwah, that you really don't know until you experience it yourself. Also, stoppit your point is correct that you can't know them offline. However, how many people actually try to be some one else online. There are a few but not everyone. Also, if you know a person for years then you pretty much know them.
I however, don't recommend having an online long distance relationship because those are very difficult to result in marriage due to distance and lifestyles.
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^I think it's the other way around.
It's rarer to find someone genuine online whose online persona is the same as offline.
I would have found my husband boring if I met him online, he's not a very interesting virtual person. Actually, I have very few friends that I would say are the same online and offline.
As for knowing someone for years. When you virtually know someone, let's say their life isn't going anywhere, all their excuses make sense as you only have what they say to go on. Knowing them in real life, would show you the whole picture. Maybe they are just lazy and have no drive? All those people who they blame in life, when actually they are the ones causing it. And for some people - What the hell are they doing online all the time in the first place? "talking to me of course". Actually, not. they would have been online anyway wasting their life away, even though you convince yourself that they are up until 4am coz you get on so well and have so much to talk about. ------> it's just an example of what i've seen numerous times.
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I know of a few people that this has happened to and it has worked out for them. Maybe because even though they met online, distance wasn't really a great issue for them as they lived relatively close to each other.
I think meeting online is just like meeting in any other way. Just because you met someone face to face it doesn't mean that you know what they're really like. It just makes the whole thing more real because you can actually see the person in front of you. In fact to some degree you probably get to know someone better online, as there isn't the fear of liking each other purely for physical attraction - you're actually exposed to their personality a lot more.
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Yes it can happen and happened. This international love with someone I have yet to meet. Makes you worry about them all the time, makes you think about them all the time, makes you angry at yourself that you were not there in THEIR city living near them and meeting with them every week or even every day. It makes you angry that how come you fell in love with this person in another country in the first place. It makes you angry you were not in the country they live in and near them. It makes you angry you are missing out on the special and not so special moments of their life.
It makes you mad if they hurt themselves or injure themselves. You cannot be there and help them out physically. You cannot go to the hospital with them, you cannot physically do anything for them.
All you can do is pray, pray, pray for their wellbeing and be happy with the thought that yes this person is alive and well. This person exists. Oh and be happy about the fact that you get to talk to them once in a while on msn or something.
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^ I want some of that stuff she is smoking! 
hmmmmm