Love marriage

Lifestyle Relationships
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Re: Love marriage

the two people 'dating' is not halaal....

yea...the guys didn't 'get to know them'.......so yes...thats not near haraam...

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Re: Love marriage

I know it's not but at least it's turning that haram into halal.. Not allowing them to marry just because they've been dating doesn't really serve any purpose (it often creates more mess) apart from the parents feeling they're back in control.. I have heard parents say 'my son isn't marrying her, she has no morals' talking about a son's gf because she is dating him but conveniently forgetting about him being the same..

'Getting to know them' isn't the haram bit, that is still possible in a halal way if ppl are religious (eg always with a mehram or only coming across them with other ppl around in a 'normal' situation like being in the same class at uni - but again they obviously aren't allowed to be left alone or mess around, flirt etc)..

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yea...they can be dating, or screwing each other or watnot.....but those 'sins' stay......even if you marry afterwards.....marrying later on does not justify getting involved those 'not halaal' activities and saying 'we are going to get married..so its kinda ok'....because i see that 'explanation' put forward by many people........"going out with the person you are going to marry is not wrong....".......

yea...but you're talking exception here......how many people u know who have gone through 'love marriage' and the 'getting to know' part was in the 'halaal way' that u explained???

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sigh running in circles aren't we again?
Surprise surprise, but you can 'get to know a person' real well even when you meet them in a group or have a third person tagged along with you. You can get to know them well enough that you can have a solid foundation to build your marriage on. Of course if your idea of 'getting to know a person' is different than mine than yes that would be wrong and "haram"

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Nomi, I'm not trying to justify it, was just pointing out it why not let the two get married to turn it into something halal..

I know it's a small minority of love marriages which don't involve any haram at all. I was just trying to show that sometimes it can be possible.

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i sense a bunch of references and quotes coming our way. :expressionless:

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ps: people who seem to know haram and halal so well and are quick to dish out verdicts really need to look at their actions first. It’s easy to criticize someone due to your personal bias and say it’s haraam harraam harrrraaam. :rolleyes: but they quickly justify their actions or don’t even take them into account.

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Re: Love marriage

*oh ok *

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oh kay lol

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I have not this experience but most of my friends who did love marriage, always forbid to do this.
They say exceptions especially from the girl side become more high. As before marriage we talked and dream a lot but after marriage we can't fulfill the desires which we previously discussed.

Especially their love life become hell. There are few who said its OK but they are also agree on it.
Like before marriage they say, After office we will come and u'll welcome me with a fresh face and i'll appreciate it then we will do combine dinner in each other arms smack then go for evening walk...but practically its not possible after some days after office hours u want ur old routine and lot of hinders come across you.
So at least I am agree with them and will not do this thing.