Love marriage...or ARaanged?

shoaib_akhter · October 4, 2006, 1:48am

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awwwwwwwww…

decent_Felow · October 4, 2006, 1:53am

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Y uncomfortable ?

Pyaari124 · October 4, 2006, 2:09am

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cuz i was shy....and he was my cousin.....and i didn't know what to talk to him abt....and i couldn't really look at him

imrans_princess · October 4, 2006, 2:20am

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ArrAnge engAgement

decent_Felow · October 4, 2006, 2:43am

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i advised u ka better or Avoid to marry within family relatives …
My 1 cousin is married within family …ham sare khus tha at that tim ..but ub scene kush yooon hai sare khush hai savie us family ka …har Rooz hee khush niya drama suru howa hota hai …Ub aise cheezon ka soln sirf yeh hai ka better se bahar shadi to priority de gie …

Allah kare ap ka case aisa nah , Allah ka ko khush rakai …Ap ka liya AAsaniyan paida karai …or Ap ko aaasaniyan distribute kerne kii tooofaiq dai ! Ameen

ATA · October 4, 2006, 4:28am

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yeh kia ??? @ all girls confusing me

jaldi say faisla karain k kia karoon main arrange or love… warna bhaga kar lay jaoonga kuri noon

Tashiqa · October 4, 2006, 10:49am

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What nonsense! How can you arrange for someone to fall in love?
How can you think of spending your life with a stranger who may be totally incompatible for you? Isn't it too big a risk to take? Marriage is a risk anyway even when it is to someone you love and know, then how can you decide to spend the rest of your life with someone you do not know in the hope that it might work out?
Marriage is the most intimate relationship there is , then how can you expect to be intimate with somebody you may not connect with on an emotional or intellectual level?
Love is one of the most important components in a marriage. It is better to fall in love first and then marry, rathar than marry first and then try and force yourself to love the other simply because you have to! Besides it is not possible to try and love someone. Love happens, it cannot be forced.

mAd_ScIeNtIsT · October 4, 2006, 11:40am

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Tashiqa:

What nonsense! How can you arrange for someone to fall in love?
How can you think of spending your life with a stranger who may be totally incompatible for you? Isn’t it too big a risk to take? Marriage is a risk anyway even when it is to someone you love and know, then how can you decide to spend the rest of your life with someone you do not know in the hope that it might work out?
Marriage is the most intimate relationship there is , then how can you expect to be intimate with somebody you may not connect with on an emotional or intellectual level?
Love is one of the most important components in a marriage. It is better to fall in love first and then marry, rathar than marry first and then try and force yourself to love the other simply because you have to! Besides it is not possible to try and love someone. Love happens, it cannot be forced.

Hundreds of thousands of successful arranged marriaged prove otherwise.

Of all the arrnaged marriage weddings I’ve ever attended, only one has not worked out successfully.

AnGeL_EyEs · October 4, 2006, 12:38pm

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Tashiqa:

What nonsense! How can you arrange for someone to fall in love? How can you think of spending your life with a stranger who may be totally incompatible for you? Isn't it too big a risk to take? Marriage is a risk anyway even when it is to someone you love and know, then how can you decide to spend the rest of your life with someone you do not know in the hope that it might work out? Marriage is the most intimate relationship there is , then how can you expect to be intimate with somebody you may not connect with on an emotional or intellectual level? Love is one of the most important components in a marriage. It is better to fall in love first and then marry, rathar than marry first and then try and force yourself to love the other simply because you have to! Besides it is not possible to try and love someone. Love happens, it cannot be forced.

if marriage is a risk anyway....as you mentioned above...then why not be open to both possibilities? As maddy mentioned....i 2 know many people who had an arranged marriage and are quite happy and content.

wsm77 · October 4, 2006, 3:10pm

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still married?

sweefs · October 4, 2006, 5:29pm

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Tashiqa:

What nonsense! How can you arrange for someone to fall in love? How can you think of spending your life with a stranger who may be totally incompatible for you? Isn't it too big a risk to take? Marriage is a risk anyway even when it is to someone you love and know, then how can you decide to spend the rest of your life with someone you do not know in the hope that it might work out? Marriage is the most intimate relationship there is , then how can you expect to be intimate with somebody you may not connect with on an emotional or intellectual level? Love is one of the most important components in a marriage. It is better to fall in love first and then marry, rathar than marry first and then try and force yourself to love the other simply because you have to! Besides it is not possible to try and love someone. Love happens, it cannot be forced.

i think this is the best answer so far....i am completly agreeing with u 100%:D

GoldenAsif · October 4, 2006, 6:19pm

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Tashiqa:

What nonsense! How can you arrange for someone to fall in love? How can you think of spending your life with a stranger who may be totally incompatible for you? Isn't it too big a risk to take? Marriage is a risk anyway even when it is to someone you love and know, then how can you decide to spend the rest of your life with someone you do not know in the hope that it might work out? Marriage is the most intimate relationship there is , then how can you expect to be intimate with somebody you may not connect with on an emotional or intellectual level? Love is one of the most important components in a marriage. It is better to fall in love first and then marry, rathar than marry first and then try and force yourself to love the other simply because you have to! Besides it is not possible to try and love someone. Love happens, it cannot be forced.

If as you say falling in love is so important (and I don't disagree with you for a minute) then how do you explain the very high divorce rate in the West where people usu. have known each other for a while and have practically 'done everything' before they eventually decide to tie the knot.

Love (but ofcourse within boundaries) cum arranged marriage is ideal but there is still no guarantee that it will work. I think mutual respect and undertanding in a relationship is also very important because once the physical charm/thing goes, there is n't much left otherwise to sustain it and herein lies the problem in the West. People marry each other because they think they are physically compatible with one another only for them to realise later that unless there is mutual trust, physical love alone is not enough to keep the relationship going

Afro-Sheen · October 4, 2006, 6:24pm

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Married, it was both love & arranged...but worked out great

Krypton · October 4, 2006, 6:25pm

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^im gladd.

Furqan · October 4, 2006, 6:26pm

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hiiiiiiiii everyoneeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Krypton · October 4, 2006, 6:27pm

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hola
jeetay raho

BulBuli · October 4, 2006, 6:29pm

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Krypton · October 4, 2006, 6:30pm

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bulbuli
so love or arranged?

uhvnt spilled the beanssss yet

BulBuli · October 4, 2006, 6:30pm

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Your b’day is in 10 hours???

**HAPPY BIRTHDAY !!! ** in advance

BulBuli · October 4, 2006, 6:31pm

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Luhhh uveee