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Just say Bismillah before each love 
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Some may be halaal, some may not.
Non-sensical thread really
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I found the following hadith a while ago:
The Holy Prophet (pbuh) said, *"Nothing is better for those in love than marriage". * Transmitted on the authority of Ibn Abbas, Ibn Majah (1847); Al-Hakim and corrected on Muslim's term 2/160, agreed upon by Al-Dhahaby and Al-Baihaqi 7/78; Al-Tabrany, Tammam and others. It is mentioned by Al-Albany in the "authentic ones" (624).]
^What I find interesting is the use of the word, "love." There has to be SOME interaction between two people in order for "love" to develop and then lead to marriage. And a marriage that resulted from "love"....would be a love marriage (so according to this hadith, it wouldn't be haraam). Otherwise the more appropriate word would be crush or interest. While there are examples of ahadith warning and reprimanding againt the mingling of non-mahrams....I find it interesting that in THIS particuluar hadith....the Prophet SAWS hasn't shunned two people for getting to the state of "love." He simply suggested that it's best for those in this situation to get married....(which would be a love marriage) as opposed to getting involved in zina and what not. I read this hadith and I think the Prophet SAWS wasn't so rigid.....he was reasonable......and sometimes we make deen difficult for our ownselves and for others to follow.
OP, I dont think there's anything gravely wrong about getting to know someone whom you're sincerely considering for the purposes of marriage. It also depends upon one's intentions. Where does one draw the line? I've seen love marriages that are successful and those that aren't. Same case with arranged marriages. I also know of a few cases where both the guy and the girl had little to zero interactions with one another.....only to end up in a dysfunctional marriage or a divorce.
Islam also emphasizes being practical and doing your part to secure things in your life. You put your trust in Allah, but you gotta tie your camel first. Marraige is a gamble whether it's love or arranged. You do your part in reducing that risk. I think in the end you try to stay within the limits of religion...you do your best to follow it....make sure your intentions are int he right place....and use your judgment. Sometimes asking others their opinions (which can vary across the spectrum)....can make things more confusing. Religion also emphasizes taking the middle path.
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Yeah, the idea of love never being able to exist before marriage is cultural rather than religious.. Interaction is allowed but obviously only up to a point and as long as certain limits aren't crossed so it's perfectly feasible that two people could fall in love.. Imagine being in the same class as a guy for months or even years or both working for the same company, even without being alone together or ever flirting u could in theory develop feelings for that person and end up falling in love..
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me going…
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Most love marriages result from unhalal or borderline haraam actions. Fact. Islamically, couples in love are encouraged to get married as soon as possible, no fancy engagements or anything. Just get married.
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So you're saying nikah of people who fall in love and get married, is not valid and somehow less acceptable than those people who don't know anything about their spouses before marrying them?
Insane.
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its not the act of nikaah being discussed…its what happened before nikah…
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Ahan. Well you used the word “marriage” in the thread topic, what’s anyone supposed to believe?
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why nomi why?
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I rather have a non halal love marriage then getting into a halal loveless marriage. Rest, I hope and pray Allah bless all marriages. ameen
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Think of it this way. In USA all the good chickens from the fast food restaurants are non-halal. Would you eat non-halal chicken? Yes you most likely would just say Bismillah and then eat it, because everyone I know does that anyway. Well, same thing applies to love marriage. ;)
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Well I don't think there's anything haram about love marriages. What exactly is a love marriage? That's a term coined by desi folks which means a marriage that was not arranged by the parents/family. SO if a girl and guy like each other where there feel comfortable with each other's thought process, they decide to get married, doesn't mean they commit haram activities to prove their love. And if they get married, what's better than that?
No one really falls in "love" until they spend enough time together and live life together. You think you are in "love" but really, all you do is eliminate the other possibilities and stick to what seems the most agreeable by your head and heart.