So is it essential for there to be “LOVE” between spouses in a good marriage? is that what defines a ‘good/happy marriage’??
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No, it's not essential that there should be love between spouses.
All you need is taciturn tolerance of one another. A nod to indicate agreement. A grunt to indicate disapproval or that the food was highly edible. A slam of the door to show that you need a break.
:p
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^ Nice love it!
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In my opinion love is essential, if not at the outset then it has to be grown and nurtured if not then it’s no way to live… thats just my two cents though.
If your not in love why marry in the first place… Oh wait i’ve opened up a new desi can of worms with all the political crap about marraige for so and so’s sake and for more money and arms etc… ********!
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real love comes after the marriage ceremony .. as they spend their life with each other their start o know the real menaing of love ..
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So is it essential for there to be "LOVE" between spouses in a good marriage? is that what defines a 'good/happy marriage'??
Why would one marry someone who they hate? Marry for the sake of revenge sounds odd. hence love is essential.
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No, it's not essential that there should be love between spouses.
All you need is taciturn tolerance of one another. A nod to indicate agreement. A grunt to indicate disapproval or that the food was highly edible. A slam of the door to show that you need a break.
:p
If whacking your club over her head and dragging her to your cave isn't love, I don't know what is.
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i like your avatar, nomica. i really really do.
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If whacking your club over her head and dragging her to your cave isn't love, I don't know what is.
Oh, so is that what you kids are calling it these days.
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I have seen "good marriages" where there is no love, kind of like a business relationship and it works!! A lawyer I did an internship for had a marriage like that to a doctor. She is not expected to have prepared meals, he is not to interfere and doesn't have to interfere with raising children, separate bank accounts, he's not expected to go to any parties with her, she doesn't have to keep a good relationship with his family, and so on. But they have been married for 14 years and seem to be happy with one another.
I could never live like that.
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^Are you saying that in 14 years of living together, they haven't grown more attached or developed feelings for another?
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i like your avatar, nomica. i really really do.
could you be a little more 'expressive' about your thoughts??
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^Are you saying that in 14 years of living together, they haven't grown more attached or developed feelings for another?
Once she told me, that her husband told her, he didn't want to marry a girl who didn't know how to drive, deal with bank statements, and wasn't independent. So I don't think there is any need for "growing together," since they both married exactly what they wanted, and their attachment is their children.
I worked for her for about 2 years, and not a single time did I notice any expectations from either her or him for their marriage. So I guess that's their love? I donno.
And Nomi- I love how I met your mother too :D
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well respect is more important there are many couples living happily in compromising as whether they love eachother or not but they respect their spouse as his life style
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*All you need is taciturn tolerance of one another. A nod to indicate agreement. A grunt to indicate disapproval or that the food was highly edible. A slam of the door to show that you need a break. * :p
i agree, there i said it at last. Hopefully i light up your valentines day :@:
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love inside, outside and all around is necessary :)
on serious note: Love in any relation is like salt in food. Most of the people need it, like it but then again, some people are OK eating food without salt.
on more serious note: love can create relationship but tolerance flourishes it.
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no love is not necessary. tolerance, respect, compatibility should be there. i don't love my spouse but i think we will have a good life since we respect each other, we agree on a lot of things etc etc.
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could you be a little more 'expressive' about your thoughts??
no... no..... no...... :b
just a random and thoughtless post....
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Once she told me, that her husband told her, he didn't want to marry a girl who didn't know how to drive, deal with bank statements, and wasn't independent. So I don't think there is any need for "growing together," since they both married exactly what they wanted, and their attachment is their children. I worked for her for about 2 years, and not a single time did I notice any expectations from either her or him for their marriage. So I guess that's their love? I donno.
redvelvet's description fits aptly here.