When I get introduced to guys, one of the main criteria that I consider during the getting to know each other phase is, does the guy inspire me to want to compromise? I’m realistic enough that I know I’m not perfect and he’s not going to be perfect - but despite our issues, is their enough caring and understanding between the two of us that I will want to make compromises to keep the relationship going.
I’ve met some guys who just make me dig my heels in and prove that I’m right or my way is right - which is unlike my approach in my other personal relationships where I’m really laid back and totally accepting of another’s ideas or way of doing things.
As for love - if you like what your partner stands for and his values, then yes love can happen. It may not be the knee-weakening passion you imagined - but liking/loving based on respect is more important.
If you don’t like the person he/she is, then love isn’t likely either.
But what about those love marriages that end in divorce - if love can happen after marriage - then love can end or fade after marriage as well.