Love in Marriage [split]

Lifestyle Relationships
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question is … what if it doesn’t happen?? :hmmm:

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then you are still in love with Chocolate :yummy:

Win win situation :smiley:

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:@: I do love my chocolate …
but will I have to share it with HIM :naraz: …

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Only if you share your love . :smiley:

You know another big question is that if you can’t achieve THAT level of love then should you just compromise or not ?

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well hellooo ... that is what my question was na ... :D
what if you don't love the dude enough to share your chocolate ...
and then yea .. compromise or not?
Now most of us tend to automatically assume compromise is bad ... me included ... but lets play devils advocate ... shall we ... lets talk about why its ok to compromise ... :D

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Re: Question For All The Married People Here, ..Arranged marriage !

Well I think most of the time people DO compromise . Leme list down the reasons .

  1. Kids
  2. Khandan ke izat
  3. Loog batain karain gaay
  4. Unavailability of alternative
  5. No real goal in life , other then marriage
  6. Too much jaheez

etc etc .

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Re: Love in Marriage [split]

A loveless marriage is not a marriage, not even in Allah's eyes.

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hmm ... good points nomi

1: kids come after marriage ... question is, why is it ok to compromise in the first place to marry.

2: ok .. I'll buy it ... its culturally engraved so hard to overcome

3: I only disagree with #3 ... who cares! .. but then I'm biased ... I have never cared for "what will ppl think" bit so its easy for me to say ...

4 &5: valid

6: huh??

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Re: Love in Marriage [split]

NOMIII … :eek: … you did the mod magic didncha!!! :eek:
You have forced me to start a topic in life1 :hayaa:
my life is over as I knew it … :rotato:

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Re: Love in Marriage [split]

You work on it.

Seriously, people.

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Re: Love in Marriage [split]

you still get tax benefits. don’t be greedy now, ehle.. :snooty:

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Welkum :smiley:

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Re: Love in Marriage [split]

this remind me of umer sharif's (off course cheap) joke

eik parosan apney 6 bachoon k saath parosan k ghar ja ker keh rahee hai "bus behen kia bataoon sacha peyaaar nahi mila"

:)

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When I get introduced to guys, one of the main criteria that I consider during the getting to know each other phase is, does the guy inspire me to want to compromise? I'm realistic enough that I know I'm not perfect and he's not going to be perfect - but despite our issues, is their enough caring and understanding between the two of us that I will want to make compromises to keep the relationship going.

I've met some guys who just make me dig my heels in and prove that I'm right or my way is right - which is unlike my approach in my other personal relationships where I'm really laid back and totally accepting of another's ideas or way of doing things.

As for love - if you like what your partner stands for and his values, then yes love can happen. It may not be the knee-weakening passion you imagined - but liking/loving based on respect is more important.

If you don't like the person he/she is, then love isn't likely either.

But what about those love marriages that end in divorce - if love can happen after marriage - then love can end or fade after marriage as well.

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Re: Love in Marriage [split]

IMO, It all comes down to, if your attracted to the guy in the first place. I mean when you first meet someone (as in bf/gf) Your not exactly gonna approach them if you dont even like them! So in the arranged marriage if you think he/she is decent looking, you can get to know this person over a year or so period. Even in relationships (non married) people go thru up's and downs. You will over time fall in love, *if *your attracted to this person. If not i wouldnt even entertain the whole rishta. It just doesnt make sense to me tbh.