is the idea of love in an arranged marriage too far-fetched ? does love ever develop in an arranged marriage or is it more of a legal contract?
how do you know if your spouse really loves you ? or is just formally doing what is expected of them in a marraige?
Depends on your definition of love.
Love is one of the requirements imo without it is like bread without butter, but.... what is love if there's no trust, respect, transparency and other things? This love marriage vs arranged marriage bs is black/white thinking, both type of marriages can have or develop love and be succesful and survive. Both can end up being a failure too. It depends on the two people who are stuck in the marriage.
Sleeping with a stranger supervised by his mum, sisters, brothers, father, neighbors, friends can absolutely turn into love.
What i have seen is..generally love marriages have more acceptance toward your spouse. And since "love" is already there..then they nurture and grow love from there. And arrange marriage..takes time to grow. There is no bad or good way..it's how two people in the relationship grow into each other despite of being imperfect..
whether you are in an arranged marriage or a love marriage, there is no guarantee of actual love. love fades away, love can also form from nothing. someone may want to die for you today, but not even look once at you tomorrow, so its all relative to your situation.
So Let us All first define what Love Is???
From what I found in a Poem is simply SUPERB Definition of Love!
**Some say, “Love. It is a river That drowns the tender reed”
Some say, “Love. It is a razor That leaves your Soul to bleed”
Some say, “Love. It is a hunger An endless aching need**”
**I say, "Love. It is a flower ** And YOU its only Seed"…
**It’s the heart afraid of breaking That never learns to dance
It’s the dream afraid of waking That never takes the chance
It’s the one who won’t be taken Who cannot seem to give
And the soul afraid of dying’ That never learns to live
When the night has been too lonely And the road has been too long
And you think that love is only For the lucky and the strong
Just remember in the winter Far beneath the bitter snow
Lies the seed that with the sun’s love In the spring becomes the rose …
Written by Amanda McBroom…
AH Yes to answer the main Question of this thread!
When Humans are involved anything is Possible!**
Why being selective on arranged marriage?
So called love marriage may not be “love” marriage either.
Can we call some ‘love’ marriages, ‘lust’ marriages? 
Coming to the questions:
1-No. It’s not far fetched.
2-Yes love not only develops but has a good chance to grow with time.
3-Well, people just know if they are being loved. Unless they are not capable to know. Even a child can sense love. So why not adults?
4- Doing something that is “expected” can still be considered love. Opposite would not be love.
@akaprincess love never fades away! What fades away is not love ! Nothing fades away if you are living with a genuine human being. What about all thsoe things one can do to keep it alight? What about loving to the grave ?
Love doesn't come with conditions and is not subject to situation it is where it is ! If someone cares for another just because of a good or attractive situation the other person is it not love it s not even called caring its simply called being mean.
I second this.
However I do think love marriages you have the chance to really get to know a person and see if you are compatible and can handle life together before committing to them for life. Which I think is huge TBH. Just make sure you really get to know the person before you get married to them. The rest is giving to your relationship and loving each other each day 
Even if someone marries after any amount of time spending together before marriage, there is no guarantee the couple will not get divorce and move away from each other.
So called "love" marriage is nothing but a myth.
So called Love at first sight is a myth. It's lust.
There is no guarantee, nor there is any prediction one can make with 100% certainty that true love ever existed, before or will develop after marriage in every circumstances.
Marriages without prior dating however have lasted longer than marriages after dating or spending time prior to marriage.
There is psychological reason for this.
Can you elaborate please
Thanks for asking.
Answer in simple way is:
If someone believes dating or spending time is needed prior to marriage then that person is relying upon what that person observes or experiences time spending with other person, before committing.
In arranged marriage, besides some essential per-requisites, the person is ready to be flexible and accepts the person with other negative traits.
Compromise starts ‘prior to’ arranged marriage. And this can help an arranged marriage last longer.
@akaprincess no faith? I dont know about your observation on the same but i can assure that i can prove it anyday!:)
To quote as an example I have friends who despite after years of marriage live/react/act as if it happened some weeks ago.so surely the spark is there the only condition is that you have to be a good person and a considerate one too.
That la-la land does exist ! Where people dont change profile picture from wedding day even after half a decade .where people dont eat out alone even at a buffet.where people dont talk after going back to home after work to avoid wasting there so's time .where people where people take pride in celebrating any even as if it was the first ome together with their so.where people take proud in telling others that she is no ordinaŕy person so she cant do what is EXPECTED of her by sosciety. Traut me they take pride in telling the same.where people only take calls when allowed.where
The list goes on I can bring day to your night but the list wont end !:D
I would also like to add..among many things in the relationship.. Mohabbat ka izhaar is very important. We get so much focused on..you said, he said and she said..you did this, i did this etc. Keep the fight and peace among ourselves at home.
And for example..sometimes it's not even my fault..but if it makes my wife happy than i say sorry and we move on..lol.