Before NomiCA accuses me of taking a thread idea from a TV show/drama serial, I’ll fess to it - this is inspired by a Pakistani drama and actually also by Demesne thread on a “complicated matter.”
Is there any place for jealousy and suspicion of one’s partner in a married/committed relationship? Maybe an easier way of describing my question is - can you love someone, but also doubt them? Or does doubting your partner negate your love for them?
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Stop making a villain out of me jeez…
answer to your question is YES…
many ‘lovers’ do end up separated due to the ‘doubt’… Love can conquer all…but not doubt…
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if the couple in question are heer-ranjha, then yes it does negate love.
for us ordinary folks: why should love be (portrayed as) such a pristine emotion that de-sensitizes us of real / practical concerns, and therefore, must be unattainable and un-claimable?
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Doubt destroys everything. It can destroy even faith so what is love?...keep it out if u want ur relation to be maintained. If it bothers you a lot, communicate with your loved one and clear it out before it gets too strong.
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Jealousy is good . . . cauz . . . Jealousy leads to possessiveness . . . leads to fights . . . leads to make out sessions 
Think positive
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@NaMaan hahaha ^
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if the couple in question are heer-ranjha, then yes it does negate love.
for us ordinary folks: why should love be (portrayed as) such a pristine emotion that de-sensitizes us of real / practical concerns, and therefore, must be unattainable and un-claimable?
This.
As humans we must contend with the fact that we will fall, we are susceptible to issues of trust or other emotions. Its just natural.
Show me someone who has absolute trust in their partner and I mean literally, otherwise the statement is invalid, and I'll show you a liar.
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There is should be a limit to obsession because that zid would lead to many lies, deceit and ruining lives including, off course, your own.
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There is a very fine line in being possessive and being paranoid to the extent of doubt.
In shot, yes you can love someone YET not trust them completely. But problem may not be with them but with you! :)
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justification for doubting another's feelings and sincerity, however natural you may call it, i would say is an unreasonable approach. Take Demesne's story's stance: If the husband of the girl, or any husband or wife in general, have issues or insecurities they should talk over it and let the truth come out Being in a relationship with double face is the abuse. If your actions are doubtful enough to make your life partner suspicious, they should explain their uneasiness and you should have balls to face it if you are guilty. The possessiveness and doubt, if turns into hitting and fights, indicates things are not normal anymore. doubt is a fire, it burns both the parties regardless the doubtful person be guilty or innocent.
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p.s: doubt and trust are paradoxes and therefore cannot combine anywhere. When you trust someone, you never doubt them. If you start to doubt them, you never trusted them in the very first place.
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if the couple in question are heer-ranjha, then yes it does negate love.
for us ordinary folks: why should love be (portrayed as) such a pristine emotion that de-sensitizes us of real / practical concerns, and therefore, must be unattainable and un-claimable?
lol, heer-ranjha WERE ordinary ppl like us.
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Hmm, that's an interesting question, Sehrysh. I think that although one loves their parents/siblings....you could still have a few doubts about them as well sometimes....but the level of trust (I think) tends to exceed that. One can have a good amount of trust in themslves and still a few fleeting moments of doubts. You ask whether jealousy has a place in marriage. Well, the problem is that jealousy, first and foremsost, has it's place in human nature...and because of that...it can be displayed toward your spouse, friends, siblings, relatives, coworkers, etc. It's always gonna be a part of our nature..........BUT.........I think that when you love someone, you make more of a CONSCIOUS EFFORT to give your loved ones the benefit of the doubt, to think well of them, to trust them, to redirect your thoughts. And I think that's the case (making that conscious effort) with other negative emotions as well. You may say that there's no room for "hate" toward your immediate family....but many of us have at times felt like we "hate" our parents or wish we could kill our siblings. Do those feelings mean that you don't love your family at all? Not necessarily. You have to make more of an effort to control those thoughts and have some consideration for the other person and the relationship you share with them.
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If you don't have trust in a relationship, the relationship is doomed.
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Most times where there is smoke, there is fire. So most times, doubts are justified. But that does not mean love vanishes. It is up to the person who created justification for doubt to earn trust back. Easier said than done. But wirth the struggle though.
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If you don't have trust in a relationship, the relationship is doomed.
This. Although some people just naturally have the tendencies to doubt or suspect their partners. And then there are cases where that suspicion turns out to be be legit because the other person actually gave their partner a reason to doubt and not trust them.
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doubting your own partner is worst case
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Before NomiCA accuses me of taking a thread idea from a TV show/drama serial, I'll fess to it - this is inspired by a Pakistani drama and actually also by Demesne thread on a "complicated matter."
Is there any place for jealousy and suspicion of one's partner in a married/committed relationship? Maybe an easier way of describing my question is - can you love someone, but also doubt them? Or does doubting your partner negate your love for them?
if idea of this thread has really been taken from a TV serial, wait till the last episode and you will surely get your answer :)
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There comes a point in love when nothing else matters....not even trust.