Re: Love and Hypocracy
No offense, but as romantic as eloping might sound, it would still come with negative consequences. As strict as her dad might be, such a step would really hurt her relationship with him and possibly with her siblings as well. I don’t think that getting to know her brother and sister on Skype was such a bad idea. If things went well with you and her siblings…they could have even put in a good word for you to their (and Aisha’s) father. Did you think about that? I think one knows their own family…family dynamics…better than another person…especially an outsider. If she wanted you meet them…her intuiton based upon her understanding of her family, i’m guessing, played a role in that request. I don’t mean to be rude, but some of your views are lacking in reason.
I asked a Pakistani friend and my mother what the proper procedure is to get married, he said you should go directly to the father. My goal was to appear mature and thoughtful to the father but obviously that didn’t go as planned.