This thread may sound dumb to half of you and you all/half may laughing, but I decided to post this question here. So please bare with me.
I recently watched a movie called “Kabi Alvida Na Kehna” ( I don’t even know what that title means, but yea I am going to have to first ask you what that so called title means). What I understood from watching that movie is that “Love” can happen once again, that too with someone else other than your wife. I understand that in movies they can just act and do about anything to make it interesting and to catch the audiences eye; such as, lovers finding their true love and etc. Finally, those two, sharuk and mukajee decided that they shall take the first step and live happily ever after.
Assume you just got married, would you take the similar step that Mukajee and sharuk has taken?
Would you not care about your khandaan and yourself reputation before taking the step?
Would you only consider yourself first or others?
Would you not feel that you have children behind and how will they suffer loosing you?
To sum it up, would you even think about falling in love again with someone else other than your wife or cheating on your poor lil wifey?
I personally feel that those who do fall in love with someoen else after marriage is because they haven’t married the “Right” person.
Would you not care about your khandaan and yourself reputation before taking the step?
Would you only consider yourself first or others?
Would you not feel that you have children behind and how will they suffer loosing you?
To sum it up, would you even think about falling in love again with someone else other than your wife or cheating on your poor lil wifey?
I personally feel that those who do fall in love with someoen else after marriage is because they haven't married the "Right" person.
What are your views on this?
First of all, Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna, was a stupid movie.
Secondly....here's another perspective to consider.....a perspective different from the movie: Should a person who is in a dysfunctional marriage simply stay in that marriage just to give the false appearance that everything is fine.....just to maintain their "izzat".....and to keep the khaandaan happy? What if both partners are so miserable with another that the tension prevents them from being effective parents to their children? A lot of people seem to think that staying together and putting on a "happy face" will fool the children into thinking everything is just peachy........but no. Kids are a lot more perceptive about a situation than adults give them credit for. ***Getting a separation does not necessarily mean that the person is being selfish and only thinking about themselves. On the contrary, it can even mean that the individuals feel that a separation would bring peace to themselves....to the kids...and to others involved. Every situation/relationship is different....and you can't compare all of them to a Bollywood movie.
"Would you even think of falling in love with someone other than your spouse?" I think that's a weird question. Why? Because most people don't enter a marriage with the idea or even the plan to fall in love with someone else down the road. Now if you do end up developing feelings for someone other than your spouse......I don't think that's usually planned.
Why a marriage breaks up could be due to a variety of factors. A marriage/relationship evolves.....various responsibilities especially having children brings a shift in not only priorities but the relationship as well. When you first agree to marry someone.......can you really predict that the person will become "Wrong" for you down the road? You don't really get to know what kind of person they'll be until you start living with them. Could be that you missed warning signs from the get-go and married the wrong person......but I don't think it's always so simple.
I recently watched a movie called "Kabi Alvida Na Kehna" ( I don't even know what that title means, but yea I am going to have to first ask you what that so called title means). What I understood from watching that movie is that "Love" can happen once again, that too with someone else other than your wife. I understand that in movies they can just act and do about anything to make it interesting and to catch the audiences eye; such as, lovers finding their true love and etc. Finally, those two, sharuk and mukajee decided that they shall take the first step and live happily ever after.
*Walaikum salam *
Kabhi alvida na kehna means never say good bye. And btw the "love" didnot happen again for both Srk and Rani. It was their first love. Both of them werenot in love with their spouses i.e. abhishek and preity.
I am into this whole "Love" thing at all but if I was then here are my answers...
Assume you just got married, would you take the similar step that Mukajee and sharuk has taken?
No because its wrong and against my religion and values. If after marriage i start to fall in love with someone else then i will control my feelings and will keep it to myself...because my family, my religion and self-reputation will be more important than love. and that answers all other question of yours.
