Oh ok, thought so. I know in Pakistan, presence of elders in this whole rishta process is heavily weighed. I understand your struggle, emerging yourself in hobbies can only do so much when the real issue is that you are ready to settle down and tired of your old routine. I don’t know what to advise you other than have patience and iA someone who is not caught up in traditions of rishta process will come along. Maybe you can ask a local imam to help you look?