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inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raaji'oon..
sorry to hear this dearr..inshallah things will get better with ur family's support over time..
losing a family member is one of my biggest fears. I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. This must be extremely hard for you but eventually time will let you accept the fact that he's not with you anymore. You should always think that if he's gone from this world then he went to a better place from here.
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i am so sorry to hear about your loss…
may Allah (swt) bless the departed soul and give you and your family strength to deal with it…ameen…
hopefully things will become easy for you…
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Sana it's hard when you loose a family member :) May Allah give you the courage to deal with everything and anything. Yes InshAllah you will get your life back. It will take some time until you learn to accept that he's there no more.
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I lost my dad when few years ago. It was a terrible loss as one can imagine. Things will be back to normal, only the normal would be a different normal.
I Read quran for him and pray for him. I feel closer to him that way. I am sure you must be experiencing the same thing
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Baba gee sabar dein sab ko :)
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Who is baba gee ?
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Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raaji’oon
Muhammad bin Ka‘b relates that there was a great ‘alim (learned person) and ‘abid (worshipper) in the Banu Israil (Children of Israil). He loved his wife very much. Co-incidentally, she passed away. This person was so grieved by this that he locked his door and abstained from meeting and conversing with people. A woman from the Banu Israil heard about this so she went to him. She informed those who were guarding the entrance to his house that she wants to ask him a mas’ala (question) and that it can only be asked directly to him. Saying this, she sat down stubbornly by the door. The person was informed of this and eventually permitted her to enter.
She said: “I want to ask you a mas’ala.”
He replied: “Go ahead.”
She said: “I have a neighbor from whom I borrowed some jewellery. I am wearing it for quite some time now. Thereafter she sent a person asking for her jewellery. The question I want to ask you is that do I have to give it back to her?”
The ‘âlim replied: “Yes, you have to give it back to her.” The woman replied: “That jewellery was with me for a very long time. How can I give it?”
The ‘âlim replied: “In such a case, you should give it even more happily because it was out of her kindness that she allowed you to use it for such a long time.” When he said this, the woman replied:
“May Allah have mercy on you? Why, then, are you so sad?** Allah had loaned you something and when He wished, He took it back. (Because) it belongs to Him.” **
**"When in your life an emotional injury **](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/showthread.php?t=286965#)takes place, (such as losing someone close to heart…) the body begins a process as natural as the healing of a physical wound. Let the process happen. Trust that nature will do the healing. Know that the pain will pass, and, when it passes, you will be stronger, happier, more sensitive and aware."
When the heart weeps for what it has lost, the soul smiles for what it has found
Baba gee sabar dein sab ko :)
aaw.thats sweet..:)
i feel so sad 4u. i lost my only grandfather 3 years ago i was very close to him and when he passed away i wished to be with him. and it did hurt to see my cuzins with their grandfathers.
but the pain lessens it really does and i know this is a cliche but time is the best of healers. Allah puts so much sabr and peace into time its amazing. It takes a while and u will go through on day and ul think of him but this time ul smile at the memory and not want to cry.
ur dad is ur dad and u will always miss him.
Who is baba gee ?
The gr8 Guru Nanak.
Dont know if this will help but my bro in law sent me this when my granpa passed away. I really liked it. Its from Imam al ghazali his last words.
"Say to my friends, when they look upon me, dead
Weeping for me and mourning me in sorrow
Do not believe that this corpse you see is myself
In the name of God, I tell you, it is not I,
I am a spirit, and this is naught but flesh
It was my abode and my garment for a time.
I am a treasure, by a talisman kept hid,
Fashioned of dust, which served me as a shrine,
I am a pearl, which has left it's shell deserted,
I am a bird, and this body was my cage
Whence I have now floron forth and it is left as a token
Praise to God, who hath now set me free
And prepared for me my place in the highest of the heaven,
Until today I was dead, though alive in your midst.
Now I live in truth, with the grave - clothes discarded.
Today I hold converse with the saints above,
With no veil between, I see God face to face.
I look upon "Loh-i-Mahfuz" and there in I read
Whatever was and is and all that is to be.
Let my house fall in ruins, lay my cage in the ground,
Cast away the talisman, it is a token, no more
Lay aside my cloak, it was but my outer garment.
Place them all in the grave, let them be forgotten,
I have passed on my way and you are left behind
Your place of abode was no deweling place for me.
Think not that death is death, nay, it is life,
A life that surpasses all we could dream of here,
While in this world, here we are granted sleep,
Death is but sleep, sleep that shall be prolonged
Be not frightened when death draweth night,
It is but the departure for this blessed home
Think of the mercy and love of your Lord,
Give thanks for His Grace and come without fear.
What I am now, even so shall you be
For I know that you are even as I am
The souls of all men come forth from God
The bodies of all are compounded alike
Good and evil, alike it was ours
I give you now a message of good cheer
May God's peace and joy for evermore be yours."
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it is really hard loosing a family member, but remember we will all meet again one day..
slowly u will come to terms and deal with the pain in ur own way
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Inna Lilahay Wa Inna Illahi Rajaoon.
I'm sorry. May God grant Him heaven Ameen.
Time heals. . . praying works wonders. . .
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Inna lillah he wa inna ilehi rajeon
May Allah help u and give u sabar:hugz:
I lost my dad when I was 8. And it felt like as if there was nothing of mine left. And even to this day (9 years onwards) I miss him so much, it’s like you lose everything, yes you still have your mother, but your mum and dad are two different sides of the same coin.
All I can say is if you don’t have you’re father, you have Allah (swt) looking down on you and protecting you. I’m soo sorry for your loss. I don’t think that things will be normal again like they were when you’re dad was alive, but normal in a different way that you get used to not having your dad around.
Losing a parent is one of the most hardest things in life. I wouldn’t talk to anyone or say anything for a whole month, and my mum was in such a state of shock that we never really communicated, and therefore never really discussed how we felt about losing dad. I think you should talk to your mum and/or your siblings and don’t bottle anything up.
But slowly, time passes and that pain and hurt inside starts to heal, occasionally it starts to burn again…but you get used to it and you know that you should pray for your father and be happy that atleast you saw him, because some people don’t even see their parents.
I’m really sorry to hear this and I hope that Allah (swt) protects you from any harm =)
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My Allah grant your father heaven
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sana, im so sorry to hear of your loss, all i can say is that remember Allah tala knows best & everything happens for a reason...we have to put our trust in Allah & accept whatever comes our way...
remember if Allah tala brings you to it, He will guide/help you through it.. be strong (i no its easy to say) & do lots of dua for your dad.. also thank Allah for the time you got to spend with him...
lots fo love & duas for u & ur family xx
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May Allah (swt) grant your father a place in jannat, ameen. Just keep praying for your father, it’ll help you get used to this hard reality of life. I really pray that Allah (swt) keeps you safe and secure in life, ameen.