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make dua for your mum always. you duas will reach her via the angels. i heard the souls wait for the angels to bring them the duas from their children. this was in some islamic book of mine. well that infomation helped me a lot.
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make dua for your mum always. you duas will reach her via the angels. i heard the souls wait for the angels to bring them the duas from their children. this was in some islamic book of mine. well that infomation helped me a lot.
**in Islam, when a person dies, his acts of good N bad deeds stop...but, the sawaab of good deeds continue to be deposited in his/her account if anyone else on this earrth does something good in his/her name and/or sends the sawaabaat of his zikr [NOT namaaz b/c namaaz is ONLY for Allah] to the deceased loved one.
that's why, it's said, that the BEST ASSET a man/woman leaves behind is his/her children who send sawaabaat to them.
***May Allah give us taufeeq to remember our loved ones who are no more with us. NOT just cry but also send azkaar. do some good work...sadaqa-e-jaariyah is the BEST way...to continue sending sawaab. aameen*
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**in Islam, when a person dies, his acts of good N bad deeds stop...but, the sawaab of good deeds continue to be deposited in his/her account if anyone else on this earrth does something good in his/her name and/or sends the sawaabaat of his zikr [NOT namaaz b/c namaaz is ONLY for Allah] to the deceased loved one.
that's why, it's said, that the BEST ASSET a man/woman leaves behind is his/her children who send sawaabaat to them.
***May Allah give us taufeeq to remember our loved ones who are no more with us. NOT just cry but also send azkaar. do some good work...sadaqa-e-jaariyah is the BEST way...to continue sending sawaab. aameen*
i received this in a text msg once.
allah ta'lah's swt messenger (pbuh) said, "a man's status will be raised in paradise and he will ask, "how did i get here?" and he will be told, "by your child's duaa's (supplication) for forgiveness for you"
(ibn majah 3660 saheeh al-jaami': 1617)
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I am sorry for your loss .. May her soul rest in peace. I am not sure what to say that will make you feel better :) ..
2 years ago, when i just moved to canada for my masters. It was september and i was trying to get myself adjust in this new environment and university. by the mid of november when the baqr eid was near. my brother told me that my dad isn't feeling well. he was hospitalized and then everything got fine .. he caame back home on december 4th. I asked for his reports and my brother sent them to me. Never had this thing in my mind so i always thought that he wuold be fine. so my final exam started and on last exam my brother called me to come home dad isn't well. I reached home and i saw my dad in ICU. i discussed with doctor what can we do and while I was discussing it (i was the only one in the room) my dad started to breath harder. doctor use the electric shock thing to give his heart a little push but he couldnt make it. My dad passed away, right infront of my eyes. I saw doctor treating him which i had never imagined someone wud ever treat my dad. I am the youngest son and my mother was sitting outside and my brother was out as well for some medicines. I couldn't tell this news to my mother. I went outside as if everything is normal and went to my brother and told him. I couldn't cry because of my mother. then came the toughest part for me. When i was giving ghussal to my dad. I can't get that time out of my head when my dad's body was in my hands. The person who held me in his arms, the person who took care of me in every moment was there, infront of me, dead .. it was painful ... I cried my heart out .. ..
the point of telling this story isn't that i am looking for any condolence. the death of loved one is always painful but you can't stop life and time. things must go on. All i can pray that may God give you courage to bear this losss .. Amee.
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I feel its quite brave to be able to share such a personal experience with everyone on a public forum. May Allah give strength to everyone who face such losses :(.
And May Allah give health, happiness and a long life to our parents and may we always have their presence in our lives, Aameen.
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T1000
so sorry to hear what you went through. :( how awfully painful. i went throught something just like that which took me by surprise and by god just to witness someone's last breath being pulled out is something i can't ever forget!
there's no cure for a broken heart which is what happens when one of your parent dies. but you're right things must go on.
may your father's soul rest in peace and be shown jannat. ameen.
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Inal lilahi wa in a alayhi rajeun. Every1 says time heals all but nobody says that time takes it's toll.I think the raw pain ur feeling will subside with time but the void always remains. I think after a while u start gng thru the motions doing the things that gotta get done and in that routine u start faking being fine cuz u dun want pals sympathy anymore nor do u want them t pity u and eventually a day Cumz when that pretending becums real,ul be like today I went an entire hour being okay.really okay.and I guess that's the only thing time can heal.May Allah grant her Jannah.
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Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’oun. may ALLAH SWT give you and your family patience...Ameen
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I am sorry for your loss .. May her soul rest in peace. I am not sure what to say that will make you feel better :) ..
2 years ago, when i just moved to canada for my masters. It was september and i was trying to get myself adjust in this new environment and university. by the mid of november when the baqr eid was near. my brother told me that my dad isn't feeling well. he was hospitalized and then everything got fine .. he caame back home on december 4th. I asked for his reports and my brother sent them to me. Never had this thing in my mind so i always thought that he wuold be fine. so my final exam started and on last exam my brother called me to come home dad isn't well. I reached home and i saw my dad in ICU. i discussed with doctor what can we do and while I was discussing it (i was the only one in the room) my dad started to breath harder. doctor use the electric shock thing to give his heart a little push but he couldnt make it. My dad passed away, right infront of my eyes. I saw doctor treating him which i had never imagined someone wud ever treat my dad. I am the youngest son and my mother was sitting outside and my brother was out as well for some medicines. I couldn't tell this news to my mother. I went outside as if everything is normal and went to my brother and told him. I couldn't cry because of my mother. then came the toughest part for me. When i was giving ghussal to my dad. I can't get that time out of my head when my dad's body was in my hands. The person who held me in his arms, the person who took care of me in every moment was there, infront of me, dead .. it was painful ... I cried my heart out .. ..
the point of telling this story isn't that i am looking for any condolence. the death of loved one is always painful but you can't stop life and time. things must go on. All i can pray that may God give you courage to bear this losss .. Amee.
You are a really brave person dude. Wish i were too....
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I am sorry for your loss .. May her soul rest in peace. I am not sure what to say that will make you feel better :) ..
2 years ago, when i just moved to canada for my masters. It was september and i was trying to get myself adjust in this new environment and university. by the mid of november when the baqr eid was near. my brother told me that my dad isn't feeling well. he was hospitalized and then everything got fine .. he caame back home on december 4th. I asked for his reports and my brother sent them to me. Never had this thing in my mind so i always thought that he wuold be fine. so my final exam started and on last exam my brother called me to come home dad isn't well. I reached home and i saw my dad in ICU. i discussed with doctor what can we do and while I was discussing it (i was the only one in the room) my dad started to breath harder. doctor use the electric shock thing to give his heart a little push but he couldnt make it. My dad passed away, right infront of my eyes. I saw doctor treating him which i had never imagined someone wud ever treat my dad. I am the youngest son and my mother was sitting outside and my brother was out as well for some medicines. I couldn't tell this news to my mother. I went outside as if everything is normal and went to my brother and told him. I couldn't cry because of my mother. then came the toughest part for me. When i was giving ghussal to my dad. I can't get that time out of my head when my dad's body was in my hands. The person who held me in his arms, the person who took care of me in every moment was there, infront of me, dead .. it was painful ... I cried my heart out .. ..
the point of telling this story isn't that i am looking for any condolence. the death of loved one is always painful but you can't stop life and time. things must go on. All i can pray that may God give you courage to bear this losss .. Amee.
It was november 2002, when my dad was admitted to hospital in the middle of night. and he spent whole day in ICU and next morning before fajar he passed away. i was in the hospital during day while my elder brother stayed in night, and he told me similar story of electric shock. he was the eye witness of it. It was really bad when he was describing the whole process. when doctor gave shock to my dad, his heart beats appear on graph for 10 minutes and then converted into straight line. doctor did several time and he only survive for few minutes and then graph became straight line. technically he was died but electric shock (indeed very painful process) made him alive for few minutes.
Then doctor declared him dead. My brother called home and told us to come hospital. I didnt cry at that time. when we took his body(janza) for prayer I cried on the shoulder of my cousin.
it always bring tears in my eyes even when i m writing this post.