I am just so bummed out today. We had a miscarriage last year in August and if we had carried that baby to term, he would have been born this month, around the 10th. I know it wasnt meant to be and all and InshaAllah we will be blessed to have naik, saleh children but its just so hard to cope. I thought i was over it by now but the pain never stops.
If Allah forbid, you went through a loss as such, how did you cope and come to terms with it?
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Hugs to you Ira. I know how you feel. Although I have been SO blessed with my 3 beautiful boys, I also had 2 miscarriages and I go thru the same thing every september and july when those 2 angels would have been born. Those 2 are my special angels in heaven and I will always have a special place in my heart for them. It is a true loss, one that may heal over time but still leaves a scar on your soul. Hang in there, say some special prayers for your little one who is in the good care of God/Allah and in the care of angels.
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im sorry, Ira hugs
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Oh i am so sorry to hear that Ira - May Allah give you lots and lots of naik and beautiful children soon...Ameen.
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Sorry to hear that Ira.
But as you said, whatever Allah has decided for you is much better than what you and I can imagine.
I can't compare my situation to yours but whenever I am feeling down about something I stand up and pray to Allah -- He is the only one who can provide that sakoon.
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I had a miscarriage 2 years ago.....how do I feel about it? Well I'm not going to share it.
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I had a miscarriage about 4 years ago, it was my first child. I quickly got pregnant after marriage (straight away infact) and we were both over the moon.Unfortunatley it wasnt meant to be and we lost it...i was devastated. The due date they had given me was 23rd march so i know exactly how you feel ira, however you have to look at the positive. Im lucky allhamdulila Allah has blessed me with two very beautiful little girls after that...infact our second one wasnt even planned. It was a big shock to find out i was pregnant. I always look at it this way, i may have lost something i really wanted but allah also blessed me with my second daughter without even asking! So always remain positive. Allah has only the best planned for us.
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ira,may Allah give u sabr.
And may u have babies soon,InshAllah.
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Inshallah you will be reunited with the baby in aakhira. My nani used to tell us because she herself lost 5 sons at a baby age.
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I am just so bummed out today. We had a miscarriage last year in August and if we had carried that baby to term, he would have been born this month, around the 10th. I know it wasnt meant to be and all and InshaAllah we will be blessed to have naik, saleh children but its just so hard to cope. I thought i was over it by now but the pain never stops.
If Allah forbid, you went through a loss as such, how did you cope and come to terms with it?
As you must have known already that miscarriages are very common. We lost two pregnancies, one miscarriage and one ectopic. But our 3 kids make us forget the pain. You will too, Inshallah.
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may Allah grant all your wishes…ameen…
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Ameen…
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:hugsssss:
I am sorry I missed your call twice today.. I had no idea that probably you needed to talk.. this pain won’t go away but inshaALlah you will be blessed with a cute n healthy baby soon and yes laiq too. cheer up darling 
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you just get better at dealing with it. 3/24/04 is when my twins were born premature and did not make it. every year it gets a little better. You become stronger, but also at times when you least expect it, some sight, sound, memory would come and just knock you off your feet. I had to go to Ohio for a wedding this weekend, and I was desparately trying to avoid it because thats where we lost them and I dont want to be there at this time. i do but I dont.
It does get better, you do get stronger, God does give you sabr.
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ira i'm so sorry to hear that. I very recently had a miscarriage about three months into the pregnancy, and i understand when people say it wasn't meant to be, but i find that i'm still very angry (i can't really describe the emotion i guess anger would be the best way to do it). I did everything right, i'm healthy, and we took all the precautions we could. To me, it feels like i'm never going to get over it.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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My prayers with you Ira
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it will be harder for you until u have your baby... afterwards, u wont care...
i was very devasted when i had my miscarriage... but Alhumdollilah i got preg. very quickly after that and now with my beautiful baby, i dont even wanna think about my first miscarriage... i hope u have a healthy baby pretty soon :-)
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Guys, you have no idea how much strength each word and helpful advice gives me. X2, you are so right about a harmless word or memory being a trigger. This is what happened to me yest morning after i read your blog and all of it just came tumbling back. Hubby and I both have different ways of dealing with it, i think i make it harder for him actually. He thinks i will be ok once we do have a child but i dont know.
Anyhow, i just wanted to thank you guys so much for sharing your own experiences. I hope none of us had to go through this in the first place but i suppose this is part of life.
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MAy Allah Mian Give you Sabr