How you guys deal with it? I recently lost my mother n its very difficult for me. So many questions come to mind, i dont know what to do. This world is soo full of pain n struggle… whats the point of all this? Everything in this world seems worthless
May Allah forgive your mother and grant her a buland darjat in jannah and grant you sabar and strength during this trying time; Amin.
There are indeed many worthless things and pursuits in this world. But there is also much beauty and good in this world, too. Much of what makes life beautiful and worth living for us and for others come from the good and kind acts that we do...things that reflect our love or care and humanity for those that we know and don't know. With that said, your mother will benefit from acts of sadaqah jariyah that you do on her behalf, which will also ease the burden of other living creatures (people and animals). It's one of the best gifts to give our loved ones; to do sadaqah on their behalf and especially sadaqah jaariyah which is continuous.
It might help to remind yourself of how your mom would want you to carry on. For example, no parent wants to see their child (no matter how old) in pain or grief and especially to become consumed by it. Try to remember the sayings or words of courage and strength and motivation that your mom would often say to you.....try to remember the things that she would both do herself and advise you to do during difficult times....such as praying or doing dhikr/tasbeeh...etc. Maintain good relationships/ties with the people that your mother loved such as your siblings, your aunts and uncles, etc) and her friends as a way of honoring her and their company can be a means of solace of comfort as well.
Dhikr is also very helpful. It's like a balm for the heart. The hardest part is getting started. But once you you get started, in a matter of minutes...you will get into the rhythm of doing dhikr. Your tongue will be occupied by the words and if you can also get your mind to focus on the meaning of the words......then for some time your mind/heart will be diverted from the thoughts that are troubling you. One of the best dhikr you can do is salawat or durood. You can recite Durood-e-Ibrahim which we recite in namaz or even a shorter durood such as ....Allahumma salli aala Muhammad wa aala aale Muhamamd...or...even shorter....salallallahu alayhi wa aalihi wa sallim. Durood is the only dhikr that is guaranteed acceptance and it has a cooling effect on the heart and mind when one feels troubled. You can even recite it upon water and drink it (throughout the day) and after reciting you can make dua to Allah to gift the recitation as isaal-e-sawaab to your mother.
You take it one day at a time. If that's too much, you take it one hour at a time or a few minutes at a time and try to stay within the present moment because thinking about the future can cause more anxiety because we do not know what the future holds. Lean on your immediate family and relatives for emotional support.
When you look at what is happening in the world around us, many of the predictions that our Prophet SAWS about the end times have come true. Our loved ones that have left this duniya are in another realm and in another form ..one where they do not face the trials of this world and where they are united by former loved ones that passed before them. I once saw a video in which a scholar said that after we pass away...our souls are united with our loved ones that passed away before us and the souls converse with each other about, "Have you seen so n' so?" I know it's easier said than done, but we have to cling this hopeful belief that leaving this world is not a complete termination and that it contains a reunion. This world is too complicated in its design to be purposeless.
You're going to be okay, Tubelight. You're going to get through this. You carry your mom's blood in your veins...you carry her voice in your ears and your mind...you carry her teachings, her words of wisdom, all her lessons that she taught you within your heart and within your deeds/actions ...every single day as you put one foot in front of the other and push forward in life (because you KNOW that SHE would want you to do that). According to hadith, the actions of one has passed away cease except for 3 things: 1) ongoing charity/sadaqah...2) beneficial knowledge.....3) and the righteous child who prays for them. So...be that righteous child....and put into action all the beneficial knowledge and advice and teachings your mother gave you and teach them to others...and this will benefit her rooh and it will be a means of honoring her and keeping her within you at all times every day.
May Allah ease your hardship and give you and your family patience and strength up on strength. Amin.
This time will pass, the grief, the sorrow and sense of loss and despair will eventually subside. Bereave well and stay strong, for yourself and your loved ones left behind.
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You should live a life that your mum wanted you to live, that is happy, healthy and productive. As a parent I wouldn't want to have my children depressed when I pass away. If you want to honor her than you can do it in a productive way by volunteering and helping out in causes which were dear to your mom. There is something called Sadqa Jaaria or in my belief cumulative morality, which dictates that Naik Aulad is Sadqa Jaaria and all the good and productive things you do will be because she brought you in this world and for people who believe in religion, it would be a source of Thawab for them, so get up, dust yourself and get going like your mom would have wanted you to.
Inna lillah e wa inna ilahiyi rajiyoon
Maazrut yo 
But everything seems very pointless now. No point living in this world, i dont know why people want others to stay in this shiitty world when we all know this is not a permanent place. Then why not go to the place which is one, stay there for eternity & have a peaceful life with our loved ones. If I say Allah mujhe apne paas bula then what is wrong in this statement?? Why people tell me otherwise? Living with this reality everyday that I dont have my mother anymore is a struggle in itself. I want her in my life & see me getting married & have kids. But thats not possible now. Sad part is I can never see her & she cant see me either. There is no way to reach out to her, no access, no bridge, no road that goes to that side so I can see her. No money, no prayers can bring her back.
Life is a gift from the Almighty and he has decreed that we value it, protect it, cherish it and use it to spread goodness, he despises ingratitude, we are supposed to thank him for our life and all his gifts, In case you didn’t notice, everyone’s mother dies snd this behaviour is disrespectful to your mother’s memory. I would never ever want my children to behave this way once I am gone. I would want them to thrive and to spread goodness. Prophet SAW mother died when he was a child, Hadrat Fatima died when Hassan snd Hussein RA were very young so there are millions of examples in Islam as how to behave. Even excessive grieving is disallowed as he says what belonged to Allah got reverted back to him. Prophet SAW forbade excessive grieving.