Even when you’re in a serious relationship, is a part of you still open to someone better coming along?
I know some people who do this. They’ll be with someone, but they’re obviously not fully committed to them, because as soon as someone else shows interest in them, they’ll check them out and see if they’re any “better” than the person they’re currently with. I don’t just mean “better” in superficial/shallow ways, but also they might click and get along more.
Could you ever see yourself doing this?
What do you think of those who do this? Is it wrong to consider other options without actually taking a step and doing anything about it?
Especially if the person who you’re with hasn’t made a full commitment to you, ie proposed or even hinted at marriage. Do you owe them anything?
I feel if I have someone in my life, I should put my effort into making things work with him, and not look around for greener pastures.
If things dont work out, then its fine to be open to other options.
I have a rishta right now and certainly there are issues but I am not going to start looking at someone else at the same time I am talking to him. I wouldnt want him considering someone else in the time I am talking to him either.
if i am committed to someone i wouldnt even give sumone else a thought like i am now , i feel that when you are in a relationship you should make an effort to make it better than leave it .
either you work on your existing relationship or break it off and then consider other rather than staying with ur partner n considering others.
When you are young, inexperienced, and immature, your relationships are a sign of status -- it's not about your feelings for a person, but about who you can get to fall in love with you or to feel an attraction for you. A lot of times these youthful feelings of love are really an infatuation for having this kind of attention. Once we get older and are ready for a committed relationship, things are different. It is time then not to look for the "best catch" in terms of superficial qualities, but the person who is best suited to make a life and future with you.
absolutely a point in life comes when people must know who they would like to settle with and then not betray that person.
otherwise, whether people see it or not, they will be guilty for the rest of their lives.
immaturity has no place when it comes to indicating a comittment. that is gruesome dishonesty to others and one's ownself.
looking for a better person could actually be a fateful lesson.
may Allah prevent people from putting themselves and others in test of weak character and disappointment of shocking dishonesty.
When you are young, inexperienced, and immature, your relationships are a sign of status -- it's not about your feelings for a person, but about who you can get to fall in love with you or to feel an attraction for you. A lot of times these youthful feelings of love are really an infatuation for having this kind of attention. Once we get older and are ready for a committed relationship, things are different. It is time then not to look for the "best catch" in terms of superficial qualities, but the person who is best suited to make a life and future with you.
I agree with you completely. Once you are mature enough to select an appropriate rishta, you won't want to waste time "shopping around". If you are too young or aren't fully committed to marriage in the first place, you will be more inclined towards a "wait and see" attitude.
i dont think u are immature at all if u find urself doing this. its normal and we all do it whether we admit it or not. ive done it....but i did it all along until i got married. when u find someone u really like u dont do it anymore simple as that. id keep looking girl cuz when u find someone u like u wont do it and thats how u know hes "the one"