I’m working on an article about what brides do when their mother in law chooses their outfits (and either allows or doesn’t allow any input from the bride). I’ve not had this problem personally, but I’ve read several brides here have. And so I thought I would put something together on advice/help for these brides trying to be politically while trying to get some of their own wishes.
So, past brides, what do you do in that situation? Have you done something and it totally failed and made your mil even angrier, or were you able to get your input valued?
Re: Looking for Advice from the Gupps! (on a piece I'm writing)
nice idea, add in mil choosing parlors for walima makeup.
my walima outfit was chosen by me, my mom and my mil
it turned out to be too good. me and my mil both had the same colour in mind peach pink
but the makeup parlor was a big clash. she wanted me to go to a certain parlor which her other dil went to but i hated the cakey look they gave. i fought to go to sobia`s in scheme-3.mil was not agreeing . so i ended up paying half of price for my walima makeup too :(
Re: Looking for Advice from the Gupps! (on a piece I'm writing)
nice idea, add in mil choosing parlors for walima makeup.
my walima outfit was chosen by me, my mom and my mil
it turned out to be too good. me and my mil both had the same colour in mind peach pink
but the makeup parlor was a big clash. she wanted me to go to a certain parlor which her other dil went to but i hated the cakey look they gave. i fought to go to sobia`s in scheme-3.mil was not agreeing . so i ended up paying half of price for my walima makeup too :(
Oh no to the makeup! I hadn't even thought about the makeup issue (although I myself had some interesting makeup situations within the family...urgh...).
So did you MIL make you pay half to go to your own mua then?
Re: Looking for Advice from the Gupps! (on a piece I'm writing)
looking forward to your article, since i might be in the same situation soon. i checked out the place my mil mentioned she's probably going to get my valima dress from and didn't like their work style one bit. probably going to have a difference of opinion on muas as well. I intend to let her have her way and make suggestions if and when they're wanted. The way i see it, I get to have my way on the wedding with my folks. If I want to be crude about it, the way they dress me up for their function affects them more coz that's when they're showing me off to their family and friends. More importantly, this is the only wedding my mil will actually get to organize, so i want her to get her armaans fulfilled. Also, the most important goal for the wedding for me personally is to get through it as amiably as possible. I do not want to start off my relationship with this family with petty disagreements about things that don't really matter in the long run.
Re: Looking for Advice from the Gupps! (on a piece I'm writing)
I hated the dress that my ex-mil had made for our engagement party. It was full of kaam and weighed 25 lbs and was the darkest shade of red that did not suit my complexion whatsoever. Bearing that in my mind, my mother told my ex mil that she would just make all of my suits and she could make her sons. It's a shame; I really loved my outfits.
A wedding/Walima is not a mothers moment to live or relive or redo her own wedding. I think the choice should be that of the dulhans.