This is inspired by the “fights increase as years pass” thread.
The question is for people who have been coupled up for years.
Do you find that at least some of the issues that you have fights/disagreements upon have been there since the beginning and never got resolved?
Have you noticed any such long standing differences? If so, how do you deal with them especially if they affect you BOTH - and neither one can do things any differently (and be happy at the same time)?
No responses? Is the post not clear enough or is the question kind of personal?
Re: Long standing differences among couples
post is unclear
yeah..had differences when issues started coming fron tcaus ewe talked too much on phone..whihc is y i didnt want to do that int eh first place..but he didnt listen
anywayzz..we boht said stuff to eachother n then held grduges n then just tstopped talkign period..thats reallly bad casue there was no feeeling left naymore..
long distace..i was being told all negative stuff on m side n him too im sure which is y when after a while i would try to communicate n make it owrk he would nto respond at all..not even to mssgs n would put down hone early if i called n would never call me bakc..it hurt me..so much so i stopped..
then when he tried id be angry..n it just kept gogin back n forth ..until it all exploded in our faces :(
This is inspired by the "fights increase as years pass" thread.
The question is for people who have been coupled up for years.
Do you find that at least some of the issues that you have fights/disagreements upon have been there since the beginning and never got resolved?
Have you noticed any such long standing differences? If so, how do you deal with them especially if they affect you BOTH - and neither one can do things any differently (and be happy at the same time)?
Interesting question.
There are a number of issues which remain unresolved. They raise their head from time to time and subside without any resolution.
I am wondering about what allows for these issues to stay unresolved, even after couples have been together for a really long time.
For example, I can think of at least one issue that my parents still get upset over and they have been married for over 30 years. I think that issue continues to be a part of their lives because of personality differences.
Now, should those differences be eliminated somehow? Is it necessary to have them resolved, or do you guys feel that it is ok to have those differences?
Let me know if I am still unclear.
Re: Long standing differences among couples
Mostly issues stay unresolved coz both or one of the partner doesn't cooperate and are/is too rigid abt change and compromise. other times it is as u say personality/values/opinion/principal clashes.
sometimes couples leave them unresolved and move on with other things to avoid bitterness and fights and keep things going to extremes.