learning to be a good conversant is a skill that takes time. no sane person can finds it interesting or effective in solidifying a relation, by long and empty talks. much worse, confusing or irritating talks. people often hear it and people also do so, themselves. when a given relation is fail-proof of this long-empty-talkness, it very well can bring two people sincerely, together because they could learn to embrace the limit of their interaction, and truly try to add a flavor of smart and fresh discussion to their talks. something changes within, soon afterwards… something that itself causes new strength in the relationship?
what might it be?
the hearts of the two people involved
the ear that listens more now, sincerely and patiently
the speaker’s words and concerns, assurances or validations
instilled worthiness of long empty talks lead to a negative change and the relationship is damaged
the mind and its perspectives (in both people over time, of equal or unequal levels but none the less it does happen to both)