Parents in old age are sole responsibility of the sons and especially the eldest.
haan haan sab kuch kaha, theek hai...
but what if there are no sons? parents ki badkismet eh?
haan haan sab kuch kaha, theek hai...
but what if there are no sons? *parents ki badkismet eh?
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lol yea some people would think that. sad isnt it?
I dont think JL meant it that way however....it's understood (by his previous posts) that he meant IF the parents had sons.
Re: Lonely Parents
bulbuli,
people must always care for and visit parents often, taking care of them in every way. they must not miss adult children to the level that they think that they are neglected, once adult children have all selfishly gotten on with their lives set in some routine.
balance is the key. making parents feel involved in own lives is the best thing adults can do for them to indicate to them that they are valued, looked up to and loved.
and that they not only deserve, but is everyone's responsibility to fulfill.
Then you would want to hear solution for people who have no kids? It never stops…
Since, we are on “what if…”
What if they have no son and their SIL doesn’t want to take care of them… what does the daughter do then? Leave her husband?
These are unique questions, best left alone until situation arises.
Re: Lonely Parents
According to islam sons and daughters are responsible to take care of parents, not Daughter in laws or Son in laws. Some of our people have a very hard time understanding this concept of a daughter taking care of her parents since in the olden days beti kay ghar ka pani bhi haram hota tha let alone a parent(s) living with her.
If and when a Sil/dil want to take care of their spouse's parents that's wonderful!
actually fiona, in Islam it is a daughter's duty to care for her parents as much as a son's but especially in the case of there being no son. she has no responsibility towards her parents in-law, they are her 100% her husband's responsibility (and his brother's and sisters'). if she takes care of her in-laws it is out of love for her husband etc, but Islam does not require it of her.
exactly what i was gonna say
ur inlaws arent ur responsibility.. but if ur husband desires u to do things for them, u should do it out of respect for him as ur hubby's desires should be respected as well
According to islam sons and daughters are responsible to take care of parents, not Daughter in laws or Son in laws. Some of our people have a very hard time understanding this concept of a daughter taking care of her parents since in the olden days beti kay ghar ka pani bhi haram hota tha let alone a parent(s) living with her.
If and when a Sil/dil want to take care of their spouse's parents that's wonderful!
reason being, we've always been taught that "larki tho paraye ghar ki hai".. people in our culture have always taught their biological daughter that she is someone else's daughter... hence the reason she has to look after her inlaws (as they are her REAL parents) and forget about her biological parents..
total crap i say..
be logical...
give everyone some respect...
Ok this question is mainly for married ladies who have gone through this scenario...
Suppose your parents are living alone after all their children have either gotten married or left the country or just moved out. And they feel very lonely and not-needed. What would you do to make them feel better? I mean not on a short period of time like a few hours but generally. Keeping in mind that you are married and have responsibilities of your own and all that. What if you are out of the country and know that your parents are alone and not in a very healthy state.
Well actually the question goes for men too. So put in ur two cents.
My mashwara for that lady is keep calling your parents every second of the day that would sure make them feel happy.
Agar aap ka husband aap ko phone karnay ki ijazat ya paisa naheen day to aap koi halki phulki part time job kar lain ya aisi job jo ghar main baithay biathy ho yani child minding waghaira. Takay aapkay apnay ghar main jhagra fasad na ho.
Agar aap ka phone karna bhi aap kay hubby ko bura lugta ho to fasad say buchnay kay liaay aisay waqt main karain jub wo ghar main na ho.
Is kay ilawa waqtun fawaqtun paisay bhi bhaijtay rahain aur agar ho saktay aik mulazma rakh dain jis ki tunkhuwah aap dain.
Apnay aisay rishtaydaron ya doston say guzarish karain kay wo waqtun fawaqtun daikh lia karain aur khairiat pooch lia karain. Un ko bhi kuch tohfay tahaif day dia karain takay wo khial rakh lia karain.
Mulazama kay liaay aisi aurat ka intekhaab karain jo bewa ho aur jisko koi poochnay wala na ho ya akeli ho aur adhair umr ho takay wo aap kay parents kay saath hi reh lay. Yani uska bhi kaam ho jaay aur aap ka bhi.
Is kay ilawa dua karain Allah say aur Allah pay poora iman o Aitaqad rakhain kay jub koi na ho to Allah hi karnay wala hota hai her haaal main. Jub koi ho to bhi Allah hi taufiq deta hai kuch karnay ki.
Meri bhi dua hai Allah sub kay parents ko Mushkilon say door rakhay aur auladon ko her tarha say unka khiaal rakhnay ki taufiq day.
Re: Lonely Parents
Jaan leva bhai Farz buchchon pay hai maan baap ka khiaal rakhna beta ho ya beti. Jo bhi khiaal rakhkhaay wo daraasal apna hi bhala karta hai.
Bilkul Angel eye beta ho ya na ho beti bhi khiaal rakh sakti hai aur rakhna bhi chahyay.
Mirchi bhai nain bohat zabardast baat kahi hamain sub ka khiaal rakhna chahyay. Sub ki zimmaydari hum pay aaead hoti hai.
Agar aap physically na kar sakain to paison say zaroor karain khuwah beta hon kay beti, sirf beta ho ya sirf beti.
Waisay to Allah madad karnay wala hai aur rastay bananay wala bhi wohi hai.
Good luck for you Bulbuli for helping your parents.
Re: Lonely Parents
Aggar app ka husband app ko phone na kernay dai tu aisay husband ko tu bharr main phainkna cahiyeah..
Anyway, our parents raise us like/equally as their sons, they give us same kind of education, spend same or more money on us, if we can't take care of them when they are old then it is pitty on us. InshahAllah I will do everything to make sure that I take good care of my parents whenever they need and even if they don't need, I would still try my best and do everything to take care of them.
Aggar app ka husband app ko phone na kernay dai tu aisay husband ko tu bharr main phainkna cahiyeah..
Anyway, our parents raise us like/equally as their sons, they give us same kind of education, spend same or more money on us, if we can't take care of them when they are old then it is pitty on us. InshahAllah I will do everything to make sure that I take good care of my parents whenever they need and even if they don't need, I would still try my best and do everything to take care of them.
Naheen lusi dear sometimes husband ko bahar naheen phaink saktay.
Sometimes parents don't raise us equally. Some parents differentiate between girls and boys. But no matter what they did we have to take care of our parents.