solution= GHARDAMAD .......as Samad would say :D
ok but on a serious note.....if I decide to get married my mother will be alone. So my sisters and I have decided that if my mother agrees she can sell the house and have a primary home with one us. This is where she will keep most of her belongings. She will travel b/w the 3 of us every few weeks or months...how little or long her stay is depends solely on her and how far away from my sisters I end up living.
My brother-in-laws adore my mother and they have a very close relationship with her so they dont mind having her stay with them at all. If I get into a serious enough relationship with someone this matter will surely be discussed with him prior to any marriage agreement. I refuse to leave my mother alone...unless she wants to be left alone.....as of now she has no plans on living with anyone because she is quite independent and capable of caring for herself Alhamdulillah.
First of all son = should never leave their parents it is their responsibility to take care of the parents.. You can go abroad and study do wateva u wanna do, but make sure ur parents are in good hands.. and if ur planning to settle down abroad you have to make sure that ur parents are with u or (if they are back home) atleast ur always there for ur parents in the time when they really need you ( no excuse of money, holidays from work, kids or wife) ..
Daughters = Not lots of responsibilites cause they will have their mother and father in law to take care of and after marriage mom and dad in law will be like their parents but still if her own parents are alone in the situation u mentioned. Personaly i would no matter what will bring my parents in my house and take care of them..
P.S it is my and only my views and iam not saying tat this is the best way or there can't be any other ways..
Hogwash! :D
dont let our culture brainwash you into believing this is true. In Islam...the responsibilty of caring for parents is for BOTH sons and daughters...EQUALLY. No matter how busy and no matter how many responsibilties one has....you will be questioned on the Day of Judgement on how well YOU treated YOUR parents.
If one cares for their in-laws it is out of love for their spouse and keeping peace within your marriage.....of course Allah will reward you for doing so. So it's always a good idea to take care of your in-laws the way you would care for your own parents.