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Bring it on!
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bring on what? are you a gurl?
waleed lol
Bring it on!
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bring on what? are you a gurl?
waleed lol
I meant bring on the cat fight ;)
Waleed is a guy name yaar
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wohi toh
lolz phew
I meant bring on the cat fight ;)
Waleed is a guy name yaar
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:D
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why any 1 go to bathrm outside to change clothes ..afterall its wedding night n u have to put off all what ever u r wearing .. so aiwi bahar jaker change kr ky aney ka drama ku ?
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No offense but why do people think its a duty to do it at the first night?
Desis put pressure on themselves
OP did not say anything about "doing it". Her original question was about changing clothes and removing makeup
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if u don't do it....walima haraam hota hai (so i heard)..........walima is celebration for consummation aka the 'act'..
Please tell me that you are joking.
Walima is the celebration of wedding, not of consummation. What if bride started her periods on the wedding day? Should the Walima be delayed for 7 days then?
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You can actually ask him to leave the room for say fifteen twenty minutes while you change if it is such an issue. Most would be accomodating enough to do that.
For makeup, you can go to a washroom, there is no reason to be running back. Why are you running? There's nothing clandestine in the need to wash your face free of makeup surely.
As for ghusl, it is a case by case situation. You can do fajr before all of this and then proceed (most weddings and post wedding functions take ages anyway) or you can ask your husband (surely if you two have "performed" you have enough comfort level to ask him what to do about ghusl and where)
Soooo, what if you get married and live with the in-laws. What if you dont have a bathroom in your room the first night? I mean do you just change in front of him/her- and for girls makeup, will you leave your room, go into the bathroom, and wash your fase then run to your room? I mean think about it. This has me wondering.
AND
when/how would you do the ghusl after wedding night if you have to perform Fajr prayers? =)
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**Walima is the celebration of wedding, not of consummation. **What if bride started her periods on the wedding day? Should the Walima be delayed for 7 days then?
This..
Quite disturbing that something so basic but so important is being misunderstood by so many desis..
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I read up on this after reading this post of yours and you are right.
I had a misconception that walima is about consummation of marriage, and I do believe this is a misconception many Pakistanis have since it's what elders say.
However, I think this is a debatable issue as I have found the following quotes which support consummation before as sunnah:
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However, the majority of the scholars (jumhur) are of the opinion that Walima is a meal that is prepared after the marriage has been consummated. This was the practice of the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace), as explicitly mentioned in one narration.
Sayyiduna Anas ibn Malik (Allah be pleased with him) narrates that he was a boy of ten when the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) migrated to Madina. (He added): “My mother and aunts used to urge me to serve the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) regularly, thus I served him for ten years. When the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) passed away, I was twenty years old, and I knew about the order of Hijab more than anyone else, when it was revealed. It was revealed for the first time when the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) had consummated his marriage with Zainab bint Jahsh (Allah be pleased with her). The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) in the morning was a bridegroom, and he invited the people to a banquet. So they came, ate, and then all left except a few who remained with the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) for a long time….. (Sahih al-Bukhari, no. 4871)
Sayyiduna Anas (Allah be pleased with him) said: “The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) consummated his marriage with a woman (Zainab), so he sent me to invite people for a meal.” (Sahih al-Bukhari, no. 4875)
The great Hadith master (hafidh), Ibn Hajar al-Asqalani (Allah have mercy on him) states:
“The Hadith of Anas (quoted above) is clear in determining that Walima is considered to be after the consummation of marriage.” (Fath al-Bari, 9/199. Also see: I’la al-Sunan, vol. 10, p. 11)
It is stated in al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya:
“The marriage banquet (walima) is a Sunna and there is great reward in it. And it is carried out when the marriage is consummated.” (al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya, 5/343)
Having said this, scholars mention that there is also scope in following the other opinions, thus if one had a Walima before consummation, it is hoped that one will gain the reward of Sunna, Insha Allah.
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Please tell me that you are joking.
Walima is the celebration of wedding, not of consummation. What if bride started her periods on the wedding day? Should the Walima be delayed for 7 days then?
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While it is debatable given the references I have found from Sahih Bukhari as to whether the walima requires consummation or not, it is definite I believe that consummation is a sunnah if done and desirable before Walima. It is however not a requirement.
As for the periods thing, I don't know if you know this, but most Pakistani families actually plan a wedding around the expected monthly date so that a bride isn't on them during the ceremonies.
Please tell me that you are joking.
Walima is the celebration of wedding, not of consummation. What if bride started her periods on the wedding day? Should the Walima be delayed for 7 days then?
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While it is debatable given the references I have found from Sahih Bukhari as to whether the walima requires consummation or not, it is definite I believe that consummation is a sunnah if done and desirable before Walima. It is however not a requirement.
As for the periods thing, I don't know if you know this, but most Pakistani families actually plan a wedding around the expected monthly date so that a bride isn't on them during the ceremonies.
Walima is one sunah, walima after consummation is another. One can combine both sunnah if possible but walima is not going to be haram if Sex did not happen
I know about how the dates are picked and that is why Larki walay pick the date, but possibility is always there, right?
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Walima is one sunah, walima after consummation is another. One can combine both sunnah if possible** but walima is not going to be haram if Sex did not happen ** I know about how the dates are picked and that is why Larki walay pick the date,** but possibility is always there, right**?
Completely agree TLK. It will not be haram, that is too strong a word. It is merely a case of doing something good (ie waleema) and doing something better (ie walima after consummation). No question that both are halal and both are correct.
And yes the possibility is always there.
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Please tell me that you are joking.
Walima is the celebration of wedding, not of consummation. What if bride started her periods on the wedding day? Should the Walima be delayed for 7 days then?
I said it few posts ago - but it was hard for them to comprehend :)
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Please please - stop labeling Valima as ’ A token of appreciation for my first sex ’ 
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They just wanted someone reputable to say that
If it was for first sex then many would be doing even before getting married
J/k
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I am more concerned what do we discuss or talk considering the fact it is a arranged marriage, damn iz gon be awkward.
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though ladkiwale select the date for nikah.But they choose the date months before so the dates may overlap:D