why any 1 go to bathrm outside to change clothes ..afterall its wedding night n u have to put off all what ever u r wearing .. so aiwi bahar jaker change kr ky aney ka drama ku ?
Walima is the celebration of wedding, not of consummation. What if bride started her periods on the wedding day? Should the Walima be delayed for 7 days then?
You can actually ask him to leave the room for say fifteen twenty minutes while you change if it is such an issue. Most would be accomodating enough to do that.
For makeup, you can go to a washroom, there is no reason to be running back. Why are you running? There’s nothing clandestine in the need to wash your face free of makeup surely.
As for ghusl, it is a case by case situation. You can do fajr before all of this and then proceed (most weddings and post wedding functions take ages anyway) or you can ask your husband (surely if you two have “performed” you have enough comfort level to ask him what to do about ghusl and where)
I read up on this after reading this post of yours and you are right.
I had a misconception that walima is about consummation of marriage, and I do believe this is a misconception many Pakistanis have since it’s what elders say.
However, I think this is a debatable issue as I have found the following quotes which support consummation before as sunnah:
While it is debatable given the references I have found from Sahih Bukhari as to whether the walima requires consummation or not, it is definite I believe that consummation is a sunnah if done and desirable before Walima. It is however not a requirement.
As for the periods thing, I don’t know if you know this, but most Pakistani families actually plan a wedding around the expected monthly date so that a bride isn’t on them during the ceremonies.
Walima is one sunah, walima after consummation is another. One can combine both sunnah if possible but walima is not going to be haram if Sex did not happen
I know about how the dates are picked and that is why Larki walay pick the date, but possibility is always there, right?
Completely agree TLK. It will not be haram, that is too strong a word. It is merely a case of doing something good (ie waleema) and doing something better (ie walima after consummation). No question that both are halal and both are correct.
