There is this strange local custom over here which i still can not identify myself with ;
When ever you go to a ghora’s house by dinner time they will just ask you if you wanna drink something. They will start their dinner leaving their guest without asking to join them… Can you imagine yourself having your food without askin?
Is this something typical of this DEVELOPED western world ?
Are there habits/customs where you live which you find strange? Of course the world is getting smaller and smaller coz of the net and the advanced ways of communication. But i’m talkin about the real cultural aspects of some folks.
Tou banda kisi ke ghar dinner time pe bin'bulaye jaye hi kiyooN...haiN???
I'll do the same thing:) bhalaa meiN kiyooN apna food share karooN...???
well i'll ask them for chai though.."Aap chai peeo...meiN "Apna" dinner kha looN"...:)
Yeah Yar Pathwari, What a not so good custom of the West.
In our society, in villages more than in towns, you can go to anyone’s house at anytime and people will pour their hearts out. If it’s time to eat, they will feed you before taking a bite themselves.
I believe that the west is way behind in hospitality department.
My favorite song by Mukesh:
“MehmanN jo Hamara Hota hay, wo Jan say Piyara Hota hay”
“ziyadi key nahi chahat ham ko, thoRay say Guzara Hota hay”
“Ham us daish kay wasi haiN, Jis Desh may Ganaga Behti hay”
I think argument could go either way..I lived with a French Canadian couple for the most part of my stay here in Vancouver..and I am glad to admit that these people are 'my family away from family' ..they took such good care of me .
I also think that one should be flexible in interpersonal relationships , especially, when you are dealing with entirely different culture..
Well, it might have happened when u visit a stranger at dinner (food) time but I have many goray friends and I never had such situation when I was not asked for the dinner, but the difference is goray only ask once ... if u want say "yes" if dont then "no". They will not pour the food on ur head like pakistanis even if u are saying "no".
Najim,
Practically all my friends are goray and i agree with you, they don't do that.
But i was talkin about the old fashioned customs, which still are common.
Your and mine friends are people who (prob) suit more in this time. They know the world and have had contacts with different people and cultures.
Personally, I never had such an experience here in US. I was always asked to join dinner. But I agree with NYAhmadi that West can definitely learn it from East.
That type of desi Baytakkaluffi is hard to find that you just show up at someone's house and ring the doorbell (or knock on the door since the damn power is gone always)
There is this strange local custom over here which i still can not identify myself with ;
When ever you go to a ghora's house by dinner time they will just ask you if you wanna drink something. They will start their dinner leaving their guest without asking to join them...... Can you imagine yourself having your food without askin?
Is this something typical of this DEVELOPED western world ?
Are there habits/customs where you live which you find strange? Of course the world is getting smaller and smaller coz of the net and the advanced ways of communication. But i'm talkin about the real cultural aspects of some folks.
Quite strange.
It might be some isolated incidents.
It is unthinkable to do such thing here ... although nowadays in urban setting more and more people infrom before visiting relatives on weekdasy but it is always expect guests any time during holidays /weekends