Re: Living with your in-laws
Reading all the posts in this thread, i have alot to say but since i am at work.. i can't type up a whole essay..
so just my 2 cents..
The whole idea of "moving" out is like a heart attack to our desi culture. When every parent wants their kid to be settled have a nice job, have a nice family and have a nice house.. they are also afraid of being left alone in the middle.
To me everyone has to pitch in to have a great family. You can't expect to be the best bahu and can't expect ur MIL to be the best MIL .. i think just drop the whole expectations thing before the shaadi.. go with the flow.. time anay per everything will happen.. get married live with ur beloved husband and if he is living with his parents then give it a try..
if both of your decide to move out and live on your own then do so but in a good manner tell your elders (MIL, FIL) that you guys want to invest in your own home your future your kids future.. i am sure this is doable.. however i must admit this can go wrong if MIL/FIL doesn't respond as we wish them to.. nevertheless we should try our level best to approach this situation positively..
now start telling me kay i am wrong and life is very hard and its impossible not to fight and kay phada's are part of our desi culture and we can't live without it.. sigh