Living with your in-laws/parents...where did it start?

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I started a topic in religion about which Prophet (pbuh) lived with his in-laws or parents (during marriage). The reason I started that topic is because I wanted to see where this tradition started, within our culture in particular.

It is often seen as bad to not want to live with your in-laws and therefore I wanted to know why it has come to such a perception within our community.

As far as I know, which is little, the Prophet(SAW) did not live with any of his in-laws. He also didnt live with his uncle, Abu Talib(who raised him) in the time of his marriage with Khadija(ra).

My question isnt whether you feel its right or wrong because of this and that, its where did this notion of one being preferred over the other start? And if there is evidence that for example, Prophets(pbut) and sahaba(ra) themselves didnt always practise it, why is it looked upon harshly? Thanks.

I dont know if this belongs in Religion or Culture.

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nice topic Munni..

it'd be interesting to trace the roots of this practice.. I have a strong feeling is' cultural.. cuz many non-muslim asian countries have similar setups..

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well i dunno either but then if u dun live with ur “OLD” parents who will take care of them and where will we put all the Commands of ALLAH in Quran and ahaadeeth of Rasoolulah:saw: ?

I will love to see a religious response on it :slight_smile:

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AQ

you dont need to live with them to help them. its easier if you are there, but if you are in teh same mohalla, next galli etc then you can have your own sense of space and be able to spend time with them.

i think desis should buy duplexes :)

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AQ

i think desis should buy duplexes :)
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Seriously, I am with you totally on that. Every one needs their breathing space!

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AQ

you dont need to live with them to help them. its easier if you are there, but if you are in teh same mohalla, next galli etc then you can have your own sense of space and be able to spend time with them.

i think desis should buy duplexes :)
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Peer Ji, Did you invest in soem duplexes? Is this a shamelss plug for reneters? :D

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kaleem naheen yaaar, although i should. interestrates are low so its a good time but then i think many of the properties which could be used for investment purposes..i.e. condos or townhomes for rentals are overpriced and will lose value...I thought of buying land..but then although it will increasein value there is no income from it until you dipose it..

so no.. i have no place to rent :) sigh

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parents also dont need to live with children to help them grow. its easier if they are there, but if they are in the same mohalla, next galli etc then they can have their own sense of space and be able to spend time with children and feed them and care about them.

I think desi parents should buy duplexes too:D

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AQ, did the children ask their parents to give them birth?.

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guys let's focus.. i'd too like to know where the concept of living with your in-laws gained notoriety..

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well this solves one other question. if parents want to abort a fetus before birth they should be able to do so. they should have every right. :k:

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No it doesn’t. I am talking about the thought process of having children.

Are you saying you are here because you are lucky you weren’t aborted?.

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errr…can we stick to the topic please?:halo:

Interesting question Munni: From whatever I have read about history of Arabs, I dont remember reading that it was their culture at the time. Now, I am not saying that we SHOULDnt live with them(before ya’all execute me!), I am all for it, but I dont remember reading anything over this. Maybe if I fish around a lil bit, I will find something :smiley: