living outside pakistan

[Decent_6Chora]

Re: living outside pakistan

@Spock

^ You know I would say that’s what many parents living in the west think, but there’s a dominating emergence of second generation immigrants who might appear to be obedient, conservative to their parents (who would assume their kids follow whatever was told), but they have their foots set into both worlds rather firmly. Their parents will continue to think they are nice angelic kids (different from goras), refraining from everything they despise, and that’s exactly what their offspring will let them believe. However, they will do on their own what is expected of any other average person would do, from late night college partying to being in relationships etc; without their parents knowing about it. I dont blame them because they were born and raised here, and its unfair to expect them to be all what you want to be. I have acquaintances from both sexes whom I spend time with, socialize and I see them doing this all the time, and I also get to meet many of their parents, and cant help it smirking as to how the parents are totally kept in the dark. I actually respect them because I understand the societal pressure on them, while growing up. Furthermore, they could altogether not care what their parents think but keeping it encapsulated from them is a sign that there is still a bit of understanding of the culture, not necessarily implementation.

p.s. This comment was in general and isnt targeted to anyone in particular, so please do not take it personally.

I dont disagree but I have seen that happening that in cases where parents are extremely strict and they don’t get involved with the kids. Like I know few families who are so strict that they don’t even allow girls to dress moderately (jeans and full sleaves sweeter) at school. What does the girl do? They change at locker room at school.

What I stated is the essential part of the training i.e do what you want kids to follow off course it does not stop here. Get involved with the kids and try to understand where they stand.

and after all the effort parents have to understand that kids can not be raised 100% like they were raised back home. There always is going to be give-n-take at the end.