Re: Living in a joint family in North America
yaa.. before he kept saying tht we will get our own place when his parent’s mortgage is paid off.. then i realized tht there is still 15 years left in tht.. lol I was being naive… soo just make sure u n ur fiance are on the same page…
c… his eldest brother lives with their parents.. so if i were to live with them also.. I would only have the smallest bedroom to myself and thts all!! I want my own bathroom and closet in my room ATLEAST!! Also, his middle brother doesnt live with his parents.. so I dont c y we have too. And y cant his oldest brother pay the mortgage.. thts beyond me too… he keeps saying “my parents raised me so this is the least I can do”… I am like “I am leaving my whole life to start a life with u.. so supporting me is the least u could do for me too” and its not like I am not willing to split the bills and stuff.
ya houses are much cheaper here.. and mortgages for an average house(as far as I know) in a good area are around $1200-1500. So to me that is not tht bad.. especially because in the beginning, we would be living in an apartment. His other brother, his 2 married sisters, and his sister-inlaw’s brother all live in the same apartment complex.. they get a good discount for having so many families there… they get 50% off and rent is only 600$ per month for them… so I am sure we can stay there and afford his parents’ mortgage.
lol… I always thought I would have my own house too… never ever thought about living in a joint family.
And his parents dont know yet tht we will not live with them.. and when I ask him to tell them already (eventhough we will not be getting married for another year or so).. he says tht I will have to tell them and if he tells them, he is going to say it is my decission and not his, eventhough we made the decission together.
arghhh…
and good luck to u too 