Re: Living away from home
I am different in my Philosophy about the purpose of children, one of my rules is unconditional love, you love them for who they are and not what they can do for you. I have no expectations attached to them. I am planning to have a very active and fullfilling old age, I have hobbies and activities planned, why should they suffer if I don’t know how to live a full life..poor mommy daddy ..sob..sob they are so lonely..sigh..that is not going to be me, I will be camping in Alaska and Pacific Rim, my heroes are like the Japanese man who scale Everest at 80.
The belief in Pakistani culture is we gave them birth now they owe us their life, that is not my philosphy, I think that just the pleasure of watching them grow is a reward enough, I personally am not expecting them to take care of me, I want to live and die in dignity not wailing and whinning for attention, I have social skills, I will make friends in the nursing home.
I want them to be the best they can be, if that means in far off lands, then so be it, or closer if that is best for them.
Again I differ in my belief from people that say to the children, I gave you now your turn to give back, I want to give forever and not take, My neighbors Dad 82 still comes around to help shovel the snow.