Re: Little things that matter...
well it dosent clarify what the problems are ? it seems that the main problem was that the guy was cheating on her ....which is adultry ...nowhere is it in the story that the guy repented because of fear of God ...rather it was sympathy + emotional blackmail of his wife which made him change his mind....so from a religious point of view whats the point of this being in the religion section? regardless of how he feels about his wife his actions were wrong .... the story rather downplays the significance of the great sin of adultry and highlites the importance of the sentimental attachment b/w a husband and wife as the main reason of the makeup
Salam-o-Alaikum,
I'm afraid i would have to disagree with you there because to lose your heart to someone does not equal Adultry. Lets not assume.
Secondly, from a very religious point of view it emphasizes the need for communication between married couples.
Don't you remember the Hadith where Satan's disciples return to him at the end of the day, they all mention their evils and he's not too satisfied with anyone, until one of them says 'I put gap between a man and his wife' at which Satan calls him closer and tell him 'you have done well'
This story basically sheds light on the works of Satan and its lasting effects on what should have and would have been a healthy relationship between a man and his wife. But because that bond is re-established, suddenly the gap is no longer there and the love they once had for each other returns, thus saving a marriage. Because marriage is done for the sake of Allah, and if you can save your marriage from being broken then you have basically done Jihad within yourself and fought the evil to save a sacred bond.
What you see as emotional blackmail, i see as the woman's right because she bore him a child, and did the job of a mother, which btw is a full-time job. So because now that investment is being dumped, and for no good reason, she is atleast entitled to show her emotions. Marriage is a bond where one doesn't hide how he/she feels from the other.
I'm not advocating or lecturing. I hope you don't see it like that. I'm just giving you my perspective on it.
May Allah (SWT) guide us all to that which is best for us in this world and in the hereafter. I hope we all remember It Is The Little Things That Matter.