looks like i have given pretty much freedom to my girl :D ever since she was two she used nail polish and she would put it on by herself with neatness i never had.. at four she got her own kid's make-up kit from walmart. which ofcourse she just wasted
now she is five, she still sometimes wear nail-polish al by herself. even she bought this set of fake kiddie nails.(ok that was dad who bought it) and wore them to friend's house n school.
she keeps her hair open whole time coz all her friends at school do so n its very girlie she thinks. she always gets adult hair cuts as i think they really suit her. she says once she's 9 she'll have red hair...haha we'll see.
i really don't mind and i don't think it will make her look like a little women in few yrs. i'm quite sure by teeneage yrs she'll out grow them. i know girls do change as they grow up. since last yr she started wearing full sleeves and long skirts. i still allow her sleeveless n short skirts but now she thinks they r not right for her anymore.so now i won't be buying her short sleeves/skirts/shorts.
so within limits i'm allowing her lots of stuff i can see others here r not allowing. and i do think she'll out grow lots of things by time.
PS: i thought cruise's daughter in sandals looked way too cute. yes that cyrus girl's dressing not my taste.
I've been very lenient in allowing the kid's make up and even the fake nails. But she is not allowed to go out with them.
I don't allow nailpolish to school unless it's a clear coat or something that is very, very pale pink. On special occassions like Eid she is permitted to wear a colour that matches her outfit. I let her get pedicures and manicures (i.e. handicures and feeticures according to her) with me so that she feels girly but again, the colours have to be very pale and the main reason is so that she learns to take care of herself.
I'm curious to know why you believe that your daughter will out grow lots of things in time. If she is asking to have her hair dyed red when she is 9, what makes you think that she will not want it dyed, perhaps another color, at that time? And once you allow so many things that adults do, how will you be able to deny her those privileges later on?
Oh the other day when I looked at my 4 yr old daughter, her face was glowing...I mean really glowing. On closer examination, I discovered she had used the fluorescent highlighter on her eyelids and cheeks. She was putting eye shadow and blusher aaargh!
yeah I know. She's 4 going on 16 LOL Imagine how tough it is to monitor her....
But I did explain to her that markers and highlighters are not to be used in this way and they can damage your skin. She seemed to understand and has not done it since.
I've been very lenient in allowing the kid's make up and even the fake nails. But she is not allowed to go out with them.
I don't allow nailpolish to school unless it's a clear coat or something that is very, very pale pink. On special occassions like Eid she is permitted to wear a colour that matches her outfit. I let her get pedicures and manicures (i.e. handicures and feeticures according to her) with me so that she feels girly but again, the colours have to be very pale and the main reason is so that she learns to take care of herself.
I'm curious to know why you believe that your daughter will out grow lots of things in time. If she is asking to have her hair dyed red when she is 9, what makes you think that she will not want it dyed, perhaps another color, at that time? And once you allow so many things that adults do, how will you be able to deny her those privileges later on?
Muzna meri nazer main se ye sub bachpan kay shouq hain ager bachpan main pooray ho jain tu hasrat/obsession nahin bantay. Even If she does get red hair or even purple hair at 9 she might see how it actually looks in reality n she might not really like them.
but with freedom i do introduce limits in my own way. i hav started to teach her abt checking prices b4 buying stuff n telling her how we can't buy everthing in the store. Also the sentence"muslim ppl can't do this" is coming more in our conversation so she understands the restrictions our religion puts on us. I'm not keen on her having after school friendships with kids from other religions so we keep regular contacts with muslim, pakistani families whose values r close to ours. So its a continual process. With every birthday u allow few new things and disallow few from previous yrs.
Eventually they learn what to adopt n what to drop.
It might be off topic but my pet peeve is lil girls wearing gold.. be it a tiny miny necklace or a bracelet, I just hate the gold on little girls..it makes them look very womanly, IMO!
When I have a lil girl--would love her to be fashionable--but in a kid friendly way. Let her wear pale lipgloss instead of lipsticks, clear mascara instead of the real thing--so she has the satisfaction that she's using make up--but doesnt look like those kiddie pageant girls (which is quite disturbing).
my 11 year neice has the opposite problem. she doenst like to dress up in "girly clothes", hates doing her hair (a hairband is good enough for her)..her favourite line is: "we're not going to a fashion show!!"
lol. I was exactly the same when I was her age. exactly
but now im the exact opposite. Im hoping she will be too.
meanwhile her 2 year old sister is the girliest girl i know her age =)
Encourage your girls to be tomboys, I didn't touch makeup till I was 17 and by that point I was old enough to figure that none of this appearance stuff mattered.
M](How to Talk to Little Girls | HuffPost Entertainment)y daughter is only 2 but already showing interested in ‘my dresser’ And I do let her wear nail polish. At home only ofcourse. Infact, I got her the peel off kind, that she can play with, put on, peel it off whatever. I personally think that’s good for developing her hand-eye coordination
I’m not sure how i’m going to keep the balance, but well let her grow up.. I’ll just ride with the tide and handle each issue as it comes up.
Refering to the above article, I really don’t think there’s anything wrong with commenting on a little girl’s appearance and giving her compliments. I sure give my daughter loads of those, I want her to grow up with a good self esteem. I don’t want her be vain and obsessed about appearance, but I want her to be able to take pride in her appearance. It’s the same for my boy.. I compliment him about his appearance as much as his sister.
My little madam (18 months) already picks up any round object or cap of something, taps her finger on it, and that pats her lips or cheeks or something, just as I do when applying make up. I don’t worry too much about it at the moment, as long as she is not preoccupied with that sort of thing. I think there’s no clear formula about what is okay and what isn’t. It requires careful vigilance on the part of parents and other role models and friends, to make sure that the preoccupation with appearance is about making yourself presentable and pleasing to yourself, not about getting attention from others.
It probably also requires a lot of reflection on ourselves and our reasons for dressing and doing the way we do.
Sadzz you hit the nail on the head , psychologically girls wanna follow their mums and you can always dress them up funky rather than 'made up' and 'adult', they can be trendy, decent and well dressed without being provocative etc.
Also girls who have daughters, just don't do make up and stuff in front of your daughters just lock yourself away and do it so they can't see you doing it...
hard to find a balance....
Hehe... Funny how the other way around.... Its all fun and games when a son imitates his dad :DFrom pretending to shave to setting its hair... Father and sons have it easy. Interesting how its mostly make up thats the issue with lil girls growing up.
And I do let her wear nail polish. At home only ofcourse. Infact, I got her the peel off kind, that she can play with, put on, peel it off whatever. I personally think that’s good for developing her hand-eye coordination 
I don’t worry too much about it at the moment, as long as she is not preoccupied with that sort of thing. I think there’s no clear formula about what is okay and what isn’t. It requires careful vigilance on the part of parents and other role models and friends, to make sure that the preoccupation with appearance is about making yourself presentable and pleasing to yourself, not about getting attention from others.